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The Best and Worst Professions to Date

What does his job say about the kind of man he is?

With the sad state of the dating world and the economy these days, you may simply be grateful to find a guy who has a job “ any job. A job is a defining element of a person’s personality “ a guy’s career can offer some clues.

If you’re going to get choosy (and you have every right to be), it’s obvious that some jobs are better than others for the man you get involved with “ the ones that pay really well will enable you to eat really well (on the nights he doesn’t work through dinner) and the ones that have him working from home may mean he’s perpetually swaddled in his bathrobe. Below, a primer on the best and worst careers for your mate.

Best

Teachers: A man who can teach has already shown that he’s smart, understanding, patient and nurturing. Plus he gets summers off “ think of the great vacations you can take, and lazy summer mornings on the back deck.

Dentists: It’s like dating a doctor without the crazy hours and the annoying beeper. Most dentists have calm professional lives, with the occasional root canal the height of professional excitement “  you can be sure he won’t be leaping out of bed to perform emergency surgery on the weekend. Since most people are petrified of the dentist, many have lovely, patient personalities.

Novelists: A creative, expressive and passionate man, he’s also sensitive and curious and typically makes his own hours, which leaves plenty of time for you.

Engineers: With an education that leaned heavily toward math and science, these men are practical, reasonable, methodical and dedicated. Crazy hours come with occasional deadlines, but these pass.

Psychiatrists: He’s kind, intuitive, understanding and not (gasp) afraid to talk about feelings.

 

Worst

Bankers: He’s obsessed with money and, since time equals money, he will spend a lot of time away from you making more money. He’s also used to being the boss and making the decisions, which may make you crazy.

Pediatricians: Get ready to have a cold a month with a baby doctor in the house. If you don’t mind a lot of missed dates, constant vitamin C supplementation and teapots full of chamomile, he may be right for you. The upside: he’s probably great with kids.

Lawyers: The worst cliché©s often prove to be true with lawyers “ the profession attracts a cold, calculated kind of intelligence and a competitive, cut-throat edge. Be prepared for long hours come trial time “ he may spend days poring over a brief instead of your briefs.

Musicians: Sure, he’s sexy, and can strum you a song, but he doesn’t wake up until 4pm and won’t be home until at least 12 hours from then. The income is unsteady and his guitar obsession is anything but cheap. He may choose to spend his cash on a new fader pedal over date night. And of course there’s another downside: groupies.

Police/firemen: Erratic, long and exhausting hours, plus you’ll make yourself crazy worrying about him. This is a dangerous profession “ and that’s not even considering the whole damsel in distress schtick.

Bartenders: He works all hours and comes in smelling like stale beer and cigarettes. Plus, it’s practically part of his job description to flirt with drunk women “ in the interest of tips, naturally.

 

134 responses to “The Best and Worst Professions to Date”

  1. There is no dentist in the US that works long hours, that is a ridiculous statement! Even straight out of dental school we don’t work more than 4 days a week. If we decide to have office hours one evening a week, then we don’t work that morning! The thirty hour week (tops) is much less than typical professions.
  2. I think there are pros or cons to dating anyone. I dated a lawyer before the guy I am dating now: the pros – he had money, I never had to worry about expenses, he was generous. The cons – he was arrogant, combative, always thought that he knew better than other people (even more than other people that are actually EXPERTS in their fields). Now I am dating a teacher, and even though it is stressful for me because we have less money, it is nice to not be with someone that has such an arrogant, combative personality and exhibits some patience.
  3. This is repulsive. Here’s a thought: date a guy for his personality (or looks, even), and not for his job. I know plenty of teachers who are jerks, and plenty of bankers who are interesting and compassionate people.
    If you give any credence to this kind of dribble, you deserve the unhappiness coming to you. You do not find love by assessing someone’s employment or other trivialities. Look for compassion, humor, kindness, interest, and commitment. They come in all kinds of packages: handsome bankers, ugly musicians, short lawyers, tall garbage men and everything in between. Use your brain and your gut.
    Honestly, people.
  4. I would have to somewhat disagree with this list… I would have to say Teachers actually belong on the worst to date. Also I think Nurses, Doctors and the medical field in general should be added to the worst to date because Nurses, Doctors and medical field have such sh*tty work hours. I refuse to date a Nurse or Doctor simply cause they have such awful work hours (weekends, nights and cannot forget most holidays). I want to be with my girlfriend, fiancee or wife during holidays and don’t want to spend having to rearrange holidays cause of her stupid schedule or have holidays by yourself cause she has to work.
    Teachers unfortunately here in the U.S. are just plain poor and make sh*t for money for all the work they do. Also with teachers that say this BS of it’s not about the money it’s about the students… Yeah well great it’s nice to be selfless once in awhile but at the same time the government runs all over teachers cause they say it’s not about the money it’s about the students and the teacher “system” is so effed up (backwards). At the same time teachers need to DEMAND a lot better pay.
    I think bankers and accountants need to be added to the Best to date list. Accountants are not like the boring people they used to be like 20 years ago. Accountants are cool, they have awesome hours just like Bankers.
  5. I know you wrote this a long time ago, and I don’t know if you will read this reply. I came to this page because of a different reply….But I saw yours and just wanted to say something to you… I was just wondering if you have some sort of pattern you were repeating with the men you were dating? I was wondering if you keep choosing the same type of man who has the exact same flaws and insecurities to make him cheat on you? You may have heard before how we sometimes just keep repeating the patterns in life or with people without even realizing it sometimes. I have been guilty of doing the same thing over different issues. Not every man is going to be so intimidated by you that he cheats on you. Many men will value and appreciate you, but you are or were not finding those men for some reason. I hope you find have have found a faithful man.
  6. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!!!!!!!!!!! I have been dating at psychiatrist who works at one of the top research medical schools/hospitals in the country for 3 years. It has been the rockiest relationship of my life, and I was in an abusive marriage before that! We have broken up and gotten back together so many times I lost count!!! Not only does he like everyone and every activity, but every time I show any anger or any emotion at all he calls me borderline! Depressed, yes, I do suffer from depression. But no, I do not have any personality or mood disorders. He has refused for all 3 years to ever tell me he loves me. He has been withholding love and affection and attention to me, and now he is withholding sex too, to try to get me to do things he wants me to do. Yes, the first man in history to withhold sex! He does not listen to anything I say because he can never remember anything I have told him later on. He is just sitting there, nodding his head. Sometimes I ask him a question and there is just dead silence. He has says the most cruel things to me ever, like that I would be a bad mother because I never finished my master’s thesis to complete an master’s degree (Even though I actually have a JD). That’s what would make me, a teacher who loves children, a bad mother. All he does is put me down and criticize me and play mind games with me, and try to use his psychiatric knowledge against me. Then we get into horrible fights because I am too intelligent to fall for it and I know and have read a lot of psychology so he can’t pull anything over on me. Plus, I am great at arguing because of my law degree. He just wants a submissive little mouse who shuts her mouth and does everything he says.
    Do NOT date a psychiatrist ladies, please. Spare yourselves.
  7. Psychiatrists are the WORST to date!! They seem nice at first, but after a while you realize it’s just their habit to blithely agree and nod at anything you say! It gets annoying after a while when you realize the person is just like a fake empathy robot. Give me a real guy who will disagree and argue with me…I actually realized I don’t mind that at all. A lot of times, since psychiatrists get trained to be indirect, they become passive-aggressive in relationships. Don’t forget that they will attract psycho girls who get crushes on them…the psychs know this and they get bloated egos as a result. My cousin and BIL were both psychiatrists-both divorced later with nasty divorces. I went on two dates with a psych last month…hence i found this page…he is actually not a bad guy at all but i HATED it after a while, he likes every activity, he likes everyone, it makes him seem like he has no real opinions. TURNoFF
    In my friends’ group, the accountants are actually the most chilled out ones…you would expect a boring nerd, but no, they’re all fun, level-headed guys with normal schedules.
  8. I also study Accountancy and working as Finance Admin in Provincial Office; but I am also willing to share my tiredness with him and still to improve the romance in between us. only if he can focus more on our briefcase of love than of work after hours. don’t you think?
  9. I am dating someone who wants to become a lawyer in the future. I worry I’ll have to forego my own career ambitions because he’ll be too busy with work and he’ll need someone to take care of him and the house. In retrospect, I wouldn’t mind if he had a ‘crappier’ career.
  10. … face it — appearance is a huge consideration for women … since most of their lives they spend a lot of time & effort on makeup, clothing & fashion — so generally ‘the mate’ has to be good looking, handsome, gorgeous, hot or at least ‘cute’ before they will consider dating someone.
    Every woman seems to be looking for “Mr Right” — as in good looking, financially successful, nice bod and *then* all the other ‘good personality’, etc. kicks in as a consideration …
  11. Psychiatrists are the WORST to date!! They seem nice at first, but after a while you realize it’s just their habit to blithely agree and nod at anything you say! It gets annoying after a while when you realize the person is just like a fake empathy robot. Give me a real guy who will disagree and argue with me…I actually realized I don’t mind that at all. A lot of times, since psychiatrists get trained to be indirect, they become passive-aggressive in relationships. Don’t forget that they will attract psycho girls who get crushes on them…the psychs know this and they get bloated egos as a result. My cousin and BIL were both psychiatrists-both divorced later with nasty divorces. I went on two dates with a psych last month…hence i found this page…he is actually not a bad guy at all but i HATED it after a while, he likes every activity, he likes everyone, it makes him seem like he has no real opinions. TURNoFF
    In my friends’ group, the accountants are actually the most chilled out ones…you would expect a boring nerd, but no, they’re all fun, level-headed guys with normal schedules.
  12. I also study Accountancy and working as Finance Admin in Provincial Office; but I am also willing to share my tiredness with him and still to improve the romance in between us. only if he can focus more on our briefcase of love than of work after hours. don’t you think?
  13. I am dating someone who wants to become a lawyer in the future. I worry I’ll have to forego my own career ambitions because he’ll be too busy with work and he’ll need someone to take care of him and the house. In retrospect, I wouldn’t mind if he had a ‘crappier’ career.
  14. … face it — appearance is a huge consideration for women … since most of their lives they spend a lot of time & effort on makeup, clothing & fashion — so generally ‘the mate’ has to be good looking, handsome, gorgeous, hot or at least ‘cute’ before they will consider dating someone.
    Every woman seems to be looking for “Mr Right” — as in good looking, financially successful, nice bod and *then* all the other ‘good personality’, etc. kicks in as a consideration …
  15. The unfortunate truth is that solicitor’s work (i.e. lawyers who don’t go to trial) often work even crazier hours. They may be called in from holidays – asked to fly back to the office even if they are overseas – just to close a deal and finish drafting a contract. Those going to trial have a little bit of predictability in their schedule, those who work on closing deals and drafting contracts. They can work 20 hours a day several days a week during busy times, and those busy times are quite frequent, since law firms are pretty lean with their hiring numbers.
  16. I totally agree there is something about a teaching profession that is too sheltered, I was in it myself and it bored me to tears. Law enforcement attracts men and women who have high tolerance to danger, and I would only avoid dating these if you don’t have that tolerance yourself. They can have those damsel in distress issues, however.
  17. I study accountancy. What do women think about this?
    I can see that many posters are looking for men with high paying jobs, great people skills and lots of free time to go out on dates and take care of the family/house. Well, marry a **** pharmacist. That is the best profession in the world, and I regret not having gone to pharmacy school.
    Seriously, though. My father is a lawyer, and my mother a dentist. They both hate their professions. My mother was so exhausted from work that she developed major depression, and my family almost disintegrated.
    Marry someone who is happy, and who loves you. If each of you make $40k a year, that is more than enough to live and raise a family. If you want more than that, you have issues. You want a yatch and a Lamborghini? Then look for an investment banker (the worst people on the face of this earth).
  18. You forgot nursing. Nurses are some of the most meaniest, backstabbing people I’ve ever met. I never met any that can hold a healthy happy relationships. They are often jealous of others relationships because they cant have any
  19. ummmm… it actually does matter. I dated a man who was so self absorbed with his career that he made it clear that work was and always would be #1… he was a reconstructive plastic surgeon and would leave the bed at 3am multiple times because someone had flesh eating disease, cut off a limb, or a burn victim he would need to treat. Jobs matter if you want to see the individual.. hard to have a healthy relationship when they work 100 hours of the week and sleep the rest……..
  20. Brutal.. my bf is finishing law school… looking forward to him articling *not*….
    Just a thought on the lawyer argument, only a small percent actually go to trial. A lot are responsible for contracts and many jobs can be found that are 9-5…. lets hope bankruptcy is one of those 9-5 jobs.
  21. Family physician, depending on the size of practice they choose to maintain, is a good profession to date as well. And the education debt is not unmanageable, mine was paid off within 5y.
  22. Would never date a teacher…. ugh, too many in the family as it is :(( I am not my older brother’s student!!!! They do think they know the problem with everyone… ironically, they’re perfect?!
    I am dating an investment banker & can vouch for the time issues, as with lawyers. I maintain a full busy life myself, so being patient for him is not too much of an aggravation. My problem sometimes lays in him being able to keep his word with time…. 7PM for dinner turns into 10PM, for instance.
  23. agreed but this is a pop magazine, and the poor sap who had to write this article may want to write about something else and may want to pursue real journalism, real women know who to date and who not to, and yes you date a person not a profession, but you would be surprised at how many people settle for stability rather than ‘love’…sad, but life.
  24. I REALLY WISH THESE “ARTICLES” (IF YOU WANT TO CALL THEM THAT) PLACE SO MUCH EMPHASIS ON STEREOTYPICAL GENDERED ROLES, BEHAVIOURS, ATTITUDES AND RELATIONS.
    IT DOES NOT MATTER WHAT PROFESSION YOUR BOYFRIEND/HUSBAND/GIRLFRIEND/WIFE (LET’S NOT BE HETEROSEXIST) IS. YOU DON’T “DATE A PROFESSION”—YOU DATE A PERSON.
    AND NOW THAT THE MAJORITY OF WOMEN WORK AND HAVE SUCCESSFUL CAREERS, WE SHOULD NOT BE CONCERNING OURSELVES WITH SUCH ANTIQUATED IDEAS OF MANHOOD AND MASCULNITY.
    ARE THERE ANY “ARTICLES” GEARED TOWARDS MEN ABOUT ARE THE BEST “PROFESSIONS TO DATE”?
    WHO’S WITH ME ON THIS????
  25. One profession not listed here that should be is Railroader. As a 3d generation railroader, I know how it is. The money is great, but the hours aren’t. Most Rails tend to have a spare bedroom that they keep when in a relationship so that they can go sleep alone waiting for the 2-3am call to go to work. Then, its anywhere from 12-48 hours before you are home again, with no idea to know when until you ARE home.
    On the plus side, you DO make good money, and once you have made your monthly miles, you can be off for up to a couple weeks at a time. The pension is usually as good as it gets (63k a year for max pension at my company), and you get up to 6 weeks holidays once you are a senior employee.
    Dating/Marrying a railroader isn’t impossible, but you have to be prepared to be alone for long periods of time, and be woken up at strange hours by company calls to work.
  26. I’m currently dating an engineer. We’ve been together almost a year. Yes, he’s a big geek… but I totally have a geek fetish. Nothing is sexier than a intelligent man! For those who think engineers have no social skills… not true. You just don’t know how to talk to him or her. There are two fail-proof topics of conversation that will get them to converse with you all night long. 1. Computers (doesn’t matter if they aren’t a computer engineer, all engineers love computers. and 2. Star Wars.
    If we’re going to be shallow, he doesn’t make what a doctor would make, however he does make enough to live comfortably. He also doesn’t work the hours a doctor works, doesn’t have to carry malpractice insurance, isn’t up to his ears in education debts, has a much less stressful job, and gets lots of vacation time. Once in a while he’ll have to work weekends if there’s some project that needs extra attention, but he always knows ahead of time. So, when you consider all of that, I think engineer trumps doctor for sure. Also, just thinking about all the engineers I know versus all the doctors I know, engineers are way sexier as a whole. All that stress doctors have to deal with does a number on their physical appearance!
    Artist… eff that. I dated an artist once. NEVER AGAIN! Dating an artist means that you’ll never get to do anything fun because he can’t afford it, he’ll most likely always live with roommates, he’ll most likely have be doing some illegal substance or have a drinking problem, he’ll most likely be emotionally unstable and unreasonable. Anytime you want to go out to dinner at a nice restaurant… guess who’s paying. And he’ll most likely cheat on you.
    Lawyers are another one I’ll never date. Cheating is a problem amongst all the people I’ve known who have dated lawyers. Also, they don’t make the money you think they do. Some have good paying jobs, but lawyers are no longer in demand like they once were. I know several people who are in law, and NONE of them make tons of cash. Most of them have to take on second jobs just to pay the law school loans because there are so many lawyers out there, and so few job openings for them. It’s just not the meal ticket that it once was.
    Finally, military men (and women). Especially those in the marines. Although I love our troops, their working conditions suck for significant others. My cousin married a marine. The pay is crap for what he has to do, she’s always having to move to areas were she doesn’t know anyone, she’s never close to her family, she can’t work herself because she’d just have to find a new job every other year. Also she just had a baby, and her husband was deployed to Afghanistan like a month after he was born. Also abuse rates in the military are really high. At least the Air Force pays a little better.
  27. I think it depends on who the “datee” is… personally if i dated a cop, military, or fireman, i would be scared for every moment that they were at work. And i like my alone time, so a job where they are not there a lot (geographically) like an oil driller would suit me fine. That said, if they were there physically but not emotionally (ie an engineer or lawyer) that would drive me nuts! We must know ourselves and the lifestyle we’ll get in the long term.
  28. Yes, that is so true… from what I have seen or heard. I have friends and a distant family member who have all been married to police and men in the military, and have all been abused to some degree.
    My ex spouse is in the military. We were together for 4 and a half years and that is all I could take. He was so abusive mentally and physically, to myself and my older child from a previous marriage. We had our own child together at the start of the relationship that I raised mostly until he was 3 years old because his dad (my ex) worked full time in the military. When my children and I left my ex, he cut me off completely financially, hired a lawyer claiming that I kidnapped our son and WON custody of him. I had no money to pay for a lawyer because I stayed home to raise children.
    Moral of this is: Ladies, please PLEASE do not marry a man just because he has a secure job, makes a decent living, promises to ‘take care’ of you… and maybe looks nice in his uniform. Take care of yourself first, have your own money secretly set aside (that no one else can access) and make sure you have the ability to properly support yourself on your own so that IF the relationship goes bad you are not screwed. If you happen to be in an abusive relationship with a man in the military or police, make sure you document absolutely everything very carefully and find a supportive program for abused women (that is not affiliated with the military in any way!). You will have a VERY difficult time getting the police and justice system to believe you and they will kick you to the curb and stomp all over you for as long as they can…. at least in BC, Canada anyways.
    Marry the man you KNOW and love, and who loves you… that is the most important thing. make sure he treats you and your family with respect and don’t be too eager to get married and/or quit your job (or education).
    🙂
  29. Lets be honest, a mans profession is more than important to every woman. However, if you think any woman (including the author) actually would make decisions for the reasons listed in this article, I just have to go ahead and say BULLSHEEZY!
    To be blunt “It’s all about the Benjamins!”. Tell any “modern” woman that you’re a teacher and you will get a bunch of empty platitudes about how much they “respect” what you do as their eyes scan the room for the bankers and lawyers that this author attempts to argue that she would avoid. If you want proof of this, I suggest you either ask or observe the male teachers you know in comparison with the bankers/lawyers…which group is having more success with women?
    Have you ever heard the phrase “They don’t ask how, they only ask how many”? If you add the phrase “successful” (translation rich and or soon to be) ahead of either novelist or musician, than you have done all of the analysis of those professions that any woman does.
    The “Bigger Better Deal” in terms of looks, money, and/or social status is always going to be the reason that women pursue and or stay in relationships.
  30. To be quite honest, I don’t think it is necessarily the profession but the person! I have been divorced once, single now but have experienced many different relationships with many different professions. I believe that too many people put more importance on what the outside looks like than what the inside looks like! I have dated good looking guys and not so good looking guys and have found that men in general are always looking for something better to come along and when THEY THINK IT DOES, and go after it, leaving you behind, that is when they make the BIGGEST mistake! Every single relationship I have been in, my partner has cheated! Then when they realize that I was better than what they chased after, they come begging for forgiveness! You know that old saying “don’t know what you got ’til it’s gone?” “Well boy is it true! I have been told by many of the men that have been my partner that I can be very intimidating sexually. Now I don’t profess to be a goddess in any way, shape or form but do know my sexuality and hold it to a higher standard! Maybe that is why they continue to cheat on me?!I have always said to my partners “if you decide to leave me, then be honest about it and leave, don’t cheat on me because I will find out eventually!” I have had many former lovers/partners call/email/text me saying they should never have left me in the first place. So why do they?? I guess I scare them! Maybe because I’m open and honest about my feelings and just being me. Maybe I bring out something in these men that they don’t want to face – like the fact that they are human and have REAL feelings and emotions. Maybe being with me, they take a good look inside themselves and get scared at what I bring out in them. I don’t know. All I do know is that the most important part of any relationship is TRUST, COMMUNICATION and HONESTY! Without those, you really don’t have a relationship doesn’t matter what profession you’re in! Ladies AND gentlemen please take my advice and just be honest with the one you love, it will save us all a lot of time!
  31. Suggested Revisions and Additions:
    Best (?)
    1. Teachers: Yes, summers, Christmas, and every other conceivable and inconceivable holiday off, leading to a militant sense of self entitlement and rapacious salary greed virtually unheard of, apart from every public service sector worker in Quebec or Greece, of course. Among the best paid (for the education) and cheapest human beings in the Western world.
    2. Dentists: Previous studies showed dentists among the highest suicide rates, by profession. Is all that financial ‘security’ worth marrying someone stressed to the max knowing most of his patients dread going to see him?
    3. Novelists: “…creative, expressive and passionate…he’s also sensitive and curious…” = moody to the point of driving you insane. “…and typically makes his own hours….” Yeah, because he’s got writer’s block and with each passing day of frittering away his time with you, your mortgage payment is getting closer and closer to default.
    4. Engineers: Uh, when did engineers graduate from being anything other than horndogs and beer receptacles?
    5. Psychiatrists: Ask any grad psych prof and they’ll tell you many psychiatrists knowingly or unwittingly go into the profession because they have serious, unanswered personal issues of their own.
    Worst (?)
    1. Bankers: “…obsessed with money…blah, blah….” Hmm, doesn’t sound like any bankers I’ve ever known. More like ‘good with people’ and ‘good managers’. And “…he will spend a lot of time away from you making more money….” Where? At his 9 to 4 job? Maybe investment bankers, but everyday bank managers, not so much.
    2. Pediatricians: Any pediatrician bringing home that many diseases isn’t practicing even basic personal hygiene.
    3. Lawyers: Oh dear–I have to agree. Not even a snarky comment on their assessment.
    4. Musicians: Could also be a bit tricky, since the very traits that make them good musicians might also make them unreliable and moody [see Novelist]. Yes, most won’t make much money either, if that’s important to you.
    5. Police/Firemen: Yes, dangerous, but have you looked at the average Canadian constable’s or firefighter’s T4 lately? Cripes–they make as much as teachers!
    6. Bartenders: Can’t fault their description of bartenders either.
    • I’m dating a hot engineer and he works for tesla and owns many luxury cars. He looks like a movie star. He is fit and friendly. He makes great money and is humble.Engineering is a respected profession unlike corrupt bankers.You sound like a jilted banker. You fit the stereotype.

    • I was married to a dentist for 26 years. Dentists are known for interoffice affairs, as well as the high suicide rates. To say they won’t get called in on weekends is WRONG also…they do. And at 1,2 3 in the morning. Happily sleeping through the night, now, on whatever night of the week. His “office manager” can take those calls now.

  32. Wow, Ihere I thought women were like men and married for love. Now I find out it was important for my wife and all you other ladies out there to make sure you marry into a secure, stable future. It seems that the person who wrote this article is a woman who thinks the best marriage is one where she can stay home and eat bon bons while her 1.25 children are in daycare. What about YOUR job? What should men be shopping for? Should a man make sure his woman is worth it before he asks for her hand? What about that dowry, I hope you are coming to the marriage with money and a good education. And since I am a man lets see those hips, child bearing? I like perky boobs and a nice tan so you better be ready to come up with some pre-marriage proof of perfection. Oh and most men like their women pure the day of the wedding. I will of course require a certificate from your doctor certifying….
  33. I love this comment:
    Wow, Ihere I thought women were like men and married for love. Now I find out it was important for my wife and all you other ladies out there to make sure you marry into a secure, stable future. It seems that the person who wrote this article is a woman who thinks the best marriage is one where she can stay home and eat bon bons while her 1.25 children are in daycare. What about YOUR job? What should men be shopping for? Should a man make sure his woman is worth it before he asks for her hand? What about that dowry, I hope you are coming to the marriage with money and a good education. And since I am a man lets see those hips, child bearing? I like perky boobs and a nice tan so you better be ready to come up with some pre-marriage proof of perfection. Oh and most men like their women pure the day of the wedding. I will of course require a certificate from your doctor certifying….
  34. Some of you need to relax and take a deep breath. I believe the article was intended to get you to at least THINK about what career you are marrying into and the pros and cons that come along with each. You are naiive to think that you just fall in love and marry! Sure — then you think about it later and whine and complain because your doctor or lawyer husband is too busy for you. Read articles like this FIRST just for research — take the information with a grain of salt and imagine what life will be like — and if you think it will be different than the author says — just wait a while. These articles are just for networking — you know — two heads are better than one etc. That my friends, is the root of todays problems with relationships, money, assets etc. etc. Nobody can wait!
  35. I’d have to say being in the military I found your comments to just plain be stupid.You forgot one important thing..age.When troops first get in they are full of it because they have been trained to a high level off of the get go.Once the training staff get a hold of him they have to install a since of do or die.That’s alot to put on a young man’s plate!Abuse can happen in any relationship regaurdless of occupation.Look further in to your studies before coming to a conclusion.It is better to be thought of as stupid,then to open your mouth and prove them right.
  36. I found your article interesting and realize it is only offering things to think about when considering a mate. I agree with all of your points and realize you are only pointing out the trends. There are exceptions to every rule but certain professions do attract certain personalities for sure!!
    • Girl you are delusional
      Bankers are the worst. I dated investment bankers and they are the most heartless cruelest liars on earth

  37. My son is a cook, working to get his chef’s papers. He said last night he would stop any child of his working in the field, due to the insane hours and poor pay. You have to have a passion for the job and accept the fact that all your friends will be in the same field.
  38. The unfortunate truth is that solicitor’s work (i.e. lawyers who don’t go to trial) often work even crazier hours. They may be called in from holidays – asked to fly back to the office even if they are overseas – just to close a deal and finish drafting a contract. Those going to trial have a little bit of predictability in their schedule, those who work on closing deals and drafting contracts. They can work 20 hours a day several days a week during busy times, and those busy times are quite frequent, since law firms are pretty lean with their hiring numbers.
  39. I totally agree there is something about a teaching profession that is too sheltered, I was in it myself and it bored me to tears. Law enforcement attracts men and women who have high tolerance to danger, and I would only avoid dating these if you don’t have that tolerance yourself. They can have those damsel in distress issues, however.
  40. I study accountancy. What do women think about this?
    I can see that many posters are looking for men with high paying jobs, great people skills and lots of free time to go out on dates and take care of the family/house. Well, marry a **** pharmacist. That is the best profession in the world, and I regret not having gone to pharmacy school.
    Seriously, though. My father is a lawyer, and my mother a dentist. They both hate their professions. My mother was so exhausted from work that she developed major depression, and my family almost disintegrated.
    Marry someone who is happy, and who loves you. If each of you make $40k a year, that is more than enough to live and raise a family. If you want more than that, you have issues. You want a yatch and a Lamborghini? Then look for an investment banker (the worst people on the face of this earth).
  41. You forgot nursing. Nurses are some of the most meaniest, backstabbing people I’ve ever met. I never met any that can hold a healthy happy relationships. They are often jealous of others relationships because they cant have any
  42. ummmm… it actually does matter. I dated a man who was so self absorbed with his career that he made it clear that work was and always would be #1… he was a reconstructive plastic surgeon and would leave the bed at 3am multiple times because someone had flesh eating disease, cut off a limb, or a burn victim he would need to treat. Jobs matter if you want to see the individual.. hard to have a healthy relationship when they work 100 hours of the week and sleep the rest……..
  43. Brutal.. my bf is finishing law school… looking forward to him articling *not*….
    Just a thought on the lawyer argument, only a small percent actually go to trial. A lot are responsible for contracts and many jobs can be found that are 9-5…. lets hope bankruptcy is one of those 9-5 jobs.
  44. Family physician, depending on the size of practice they choose to maintain, is a good profession to date as well. And the education debt is not unmanageable, mine was paid off within 5y.
  45. Would never date a teacher…. ugh, too many in the family as it is :(( I am not my older brother’s student!!!! They do think they know the problem with everyone… ironically, they’re perfect?!
    I am dating an investment banker & can vouch for the time issues, as with lawyers. I maintain a full busy life myself, so being patient for him is not too much of an aggravation. My problem sometimes lays in him being able to keep his word with time…. 7PM for dinner turns into 10PM, for instance.
  46. agreed but this is a pop magazine, and the poor sap who had to write this article may want to write about something else and may want to pursue real journalism, real women know who to date and who not to, and yes you date a person not a profession, but you would be surprised at how many people settle for stability rather than ‘love’…sad, but life.
  47. I REALLY WISH THESE “ARTICLES” (IF YOU WANT TO CALL THEM THAT) PLACE SO MUCH EMPHASIS ON STEREOTYPICAL GENDERED ROLES, BEHAVIOURS, ATTITUDES AND RELATIONS.
    IT DOES NOT MATTER WHAT PROFESSION YOUR BOYFRIEND/HUSBAND/GIRLFRIEND/WIFE (LET’S NOT BE HETEROSEXIST) IS. YOU DON’T “DATE A PROFESSION”—YOU DATE A PERSON.
    AND NOW THAT THE MAJORITY OF WOMEN WORK AND HAVE SUCCESSFUL CAREERS, WE SHOULD NOT BE CONCERNING OURSELVES WITH SUCH ANTIQUATED IDEAS OF MANHOOD AND MASCULNITY.
    ARE THERE ANY “ARTICLES” GEARED TOWARDS MEN ABOUT ARE THE BEST “PROFESSIONS TO DATE”?
    WHO’S WITH ME ON THIS????
  48. One profession not listed here that should be is Railroader. As a 3d generation railroader, I know how it is. The money is great, but the hours aren’t. Most Rails tend to have a spare bedroom that they keep when in a relationship so that they can go sleep alone waiting for the 2-3am call to go to work. Then, its anywhere from 12-48 hours before you are home again, with no idea to know when until you ARE home.
    On the plus side, you DO make good money, and once you have made your monthly miles, you can be off for up to a couple weeks at a time. The pension is usually as good as it gets (63k a year for max pension at my company), and you get up to 6 weeks holidays once you are a senior employee.
    Dating/Marrying a railroader isn’t impossible, but you have to be prepared to be alone for long periods of time, and be woken up at strange hours by company calls to work.
  49. I’m currently dating an engineer. We’ve been together almost a year. Yes, he’s a big geek… but I totally have a geek fetish. Nothing is sexier than a intelligent man! For those who think engineers have no social skills… not true. You just don’t know how to talk to him or her. There are two fail-proof topics of conversation that will get them to converse with you all night long. 1. Computers (doesn’t matter if they aren’t a computer engineer, all engineers love computers. and 2. Star Wars.
    If we’re going to be shallow, he doesn’t make what a doctor would make, however he does make enough to live comfortably. He also doesn’t work the hours a doctor works, doesn’t have to carry malpractice insurance, isn’t up to his ears in education debts, has a much less stressful job, and gets lots of vacation time. Once in a while he’ll have to work weekends if there’s some project that needs extra attention, but he always knows ahead of time. So, when you consider all of that, I think engineer trumps doctor for sure. Also, just thinking about all the engineers I know versus all the doctors I know, engineers are way sexier as a whole. All that stress doctors have to deal with does a number on their physical appearance!
    Artist… eff that. I dated an artist once. NEVER AGAIN! Dating an artist means that you’ll never get to do anything fun because he can’t afford it, he’ll most likely always live with roommates, he’ll most likely have be doing some illegal substance or have a drinking problem, he’ll most likely be emotionally unstable and unreasonable. Anytime you want to go out to dinner at a nice restaurant… guess who’s paying. And he’ll most likely cheat on you.
    Lawyers are another one I’ll never date. Cheating is a problem amongst all the people I’ve known who have dated lawyers. Also, they don’t make the money you think they do. Some have good paying jobs, but lawyers are no longer in demand like they once were. I know several people who are in law, and NONE of them make tons of cash. Most of them have to take on second jobs just to pay the law school loans because there are so many lawyers out there, and so few job openings for them. It’s just not the meal ticket that it once was.
    Finally, military men (and women). Especially those in the marines. Although I love our troops, their working conditions suck for significant others. My cousin married a marine. The pay is crap for what he has to do, she’s always having to move to areas were she doesn’t know anyone, she’s never close to her family, she can’t work herself because she’d just have to find a new job every other year. Also she just had a baby, and her husband was deployed to Afghanistan like a month after he was born. Also abuse rates in the military are really high. At least the Air Force pays a little better.
  50. I think it depends on who the “datee” is… personally if i dated a cop, military, or fireman, i would be scared for every moment that they were at work. And i like my alone time, so a job where they are not there a lot (geographically) like an oil driller would suit me fine. That said, if they were there physically but not emotionally (ie an engineer or lawyer) that would drive me nuts! We must know ourselves and the lifestyle we’ll get in the long term.
  51. Yes, that is so true… from what I have seen or heard. I have friends and a distant family member who have all been married to police and men in the military, and have all been abused to some degree.
    My ex spouse is in the military. We were together for 4 and a half years and that is all I could take. He was so abusive mentally and physically, to myself and my older child from a previous marriage. We had our own child together at the start of the relationship that I raised mostly until he was 3 years old because his dad (my ex) worked full time in the military. When my children and I left my ex, he cut me off completely financially, hired a lawyer claiming that I kidnapped our son and WON custody of him. I had no money to pay for a lawyer because I stayed home to raise children.
    Moral of this is: Ladies, please PLEASE do not marry a man just because he has a secure job, makes a decent living, promises to ‘take care’ of you… and maybe looks nice in his uniform. Take care of yourself first, have your own money secretly set aside (that no one else can access) and make sure you have the ability to properly support yourself on your own so that IF the relationship goes bad you are not screwed. If you happen to be in an abusive relationship with a man in the military or police, make sure you document absolutely everything very carefully and find a supportive program for abused women (that is not affiliated with the military in any way!). You will have a VERY difficult time getting the police and justice system to believe you and they will kick you to the curb and stomp all over you for as long as they can…. at least in BC, Canada anyways.
    Marry the man you KNOW and love, and who loves you… that is the most important thing. make sure he treats you and your family with respect and don’t be too eager to get married and/or quit your job (or education).
    🙂
  52. Lets be honest, a mans profession is more than important to every woman. However, if you think any woman (including the author) actually would make decisions for the reasons listed in this article, I just have to go ahead and say BULLSHEEZY!
    To be blunt “It’s all about the Benjamins!”. Tell any “modern” woman that you’re a teacher and you will get a bunch of empty platitudes about how much they “respect” what you do as their eyes scan the room for the bankers and lawyers that this author attempts to argue that she would avoid. If you want proof of this, I suggest you either ask or observe the male teachers you know in comparison with the bankers/lawyers…which group is having more success with women?
    Have you ever heard the phrase “They don’t ask how, they only ask how many”? If you add the phrase “successful” (translation rich and or soon to be) ahead of either novelist or musician, than you have done all of the analysis of those professions that any woman does.
    The “Bigger Better Deal” in terms of looks, money, and/or social status is always going to be the reason that women pursue and or stay in relationships.
  53. To be quite honest, I don’t think it is necessarily the profession but the person! I have been divorced once, single now but have experienced many different relationships with many different professions. I believe that too many people put more importance on what the outside looks like than what the inside looks like! I have dated good looking guys and not so good looking guys and have found that men in general are always looking for something better to come along and when THEY THINK IT DOES, and go after it, leaving you behind, that is when they make the BIGGEST mistake! Every single relationship I have been in, my partner has cheated! Then when they realize that I was better than what they chased after, they come begging for forgiveness! You know that old saying “don’t know what you got ’til it’s gone?” “Well boy is it true! I have been told by many of the men that have been my partner that I can be very intimidating sexually. Now I don’t profess to be a goddess in any way, shape or form but do know my sexuality and hold it to a higher standard! Maybe that is why they continue to cheat on me?!I have always said to my partners “if you decide to leave me, then be honest about it and leave, don’t cheat on me because I will find out eventually!” I have had many former lovers/partners call/email/text me saying they should never have left me in the first place. So why do they?? I guess I scare them! Maybe because I’m open and honest about my feelings and just being me. Maybe I bring out something in these men that they don’t want to face – like the fact that they are human and have REAL feelings and emotions. Maybe being with me, they take a good look inside themselves and get scared at what I bring out in them. I don’t know. All I do know is that the most important part of any relationship is TRUST, COMMUNICATION and HONESTY! Without those, you really don’t have a relationship doesn’t matter what profession you’re in! Ladies AND gentlemen please take my advice and just be honest with the one you love, it will save us all a lot of time!
  54. Suggested Revisions and Additions:
    Best (?)
    1. Teachers: Yes, summers, Christmas, and every other conceivable and inconceivable holiday off, leading to a militant sense of self entitlement and rapacious salary greed virtually unheard of, apart from every public service sector worker in Quebec or Greece, of course. Among the best paid (for the education) and cheapest human beings in the Western world.
    2. Dentists: Previous studies showed dentists among the highest suicide rates, by profession. Is all that financial ‘security’ worth marrying someone stressed to the max knowing most of his patients dread going to see him?
    3. Novelists: “…creative, expressive and passionate…he’s also sensitive and curious…” = moody to the point of driving you insane. “…and typically makes his own hours….” Yeah, because he’s got writer’s block and with each passing day of frittering away his time with you, your mortgage payment is getting closer and closer to default.
    4. Engineers: Uh, when did engineers graduate from being anything other than horndogs and beer receptacles?
    5. Psychiatrists: Ask any grad psych prof and they’ll tell you many psychiatrists knowingly or unwittingly go into the profession because they have serious, unanswered personal issues of their own.
    Worst (?)
    1. Bankers: “…obsessed with money…blah, blah….” Hmm, doesn’t sound like any bankers I’ve ever known. More like ‘good with people’ and ‘good managers’. And “…he will spend a lot of time away from you making more money….” Where? At his 9 to 4 job? Maybe investment bankers, but everyday bank managers, not so much.
    2. Pediatricians: Any pediatrician bringing home that many diseases isn’t practicing even basic personal hygiene.
    3. Lawyers: Oh dear–I have to agree. Not even a snarky comment on their assessment.
    4. Musicians: Could also be a bit tricky, since the very traits that make them good musicians might also make them unreliable and moody [see Novelist]. Yes, most won’t make much money either, if that’s important to you.
    5. Police/Firemen: Yes, dangerous, but have you looked at the average Canadian constable’s or firefighter’s T4 lately? Cripes–they make as much as teachers!
    6. Bartenders: Can’t fault their description of bartenders either.
  55. Wow, Ihere I thought women were like men and married for love. Now I find out it was important for my wife and all you other ladies out there to make sure you marry into a secure, stable future. It seems that the person who wrote this article is a woman who thinks the best marriage is one where she can stay home and eat bon bons while her 1.25 children are in daycare. What about YOUR job? What should men be shopping for? Should a man make sure his woman is worth it before he asks for her hand? What about that dowry, I hope you are coming to the marriage with money and a good education. And since I am a man lets see those hips, child bearing? I like perky boobs and a nice tan so you better be ready to come up with some pre-marriage proof of perfection. Oh and most men like their women pure the day of the wedding. I will of course require a certificate from your doctor certifying….
  56. I love this comment:
    Wow, Ihere I thought women were like men and married for love. Now I find out it was important for my wife and all you other ladies out there to make sure you marry into a secure, stable future. It seems that the person who wrote this article is a woman who thinks the best marriage is one where she can stay home and eat bon bons while her 1.25 children are in daycare. What about YOUR job? What should men be shopping for? Should a man make sure his woman is worth it before he asks for her hand? What about that dowry, I hope you are coming to the marriage with money and a good education. And since I am a man lets see those hips, child bearing? I like perky boobs and a nice tan so you better be ready to come up with some pre-marriage proof of perfection. Oh and most men like their women pure the day of the wedding. I will of course require a certificate from your doctor certifying….
  57. Some of you need to relax and take a deep breath. I believe the article was intended to get you to at least THINK about what career you are marrying into and the pros and cons that come along with each. You are naiive to think that you just fall in love and marry! Sure — then you think about it later and whine and complain because your doctor or lawyer husband is too busy for you. Read articles like this FIRST just for research — take the information with a grain of salt and imagine what life will be like — and if you think it will be different than the author says — just wait a while. These articles are just for networking — you know — two heads are better than one etc. That my friends, is the root of todays problems with relationships, money, assets etc. etc. Nobody can wait!
  58. I’d have to say being in the military I found your comments to just plain be stupid.You forgot one important thing..age.When troops first get in they are full of it because they have been trained to a high level off of the get go.Once the training staff get a hold of him they have to install a since of do or die.That’s alot to put on a young man’s plate!Abuse can happen in any relationship regaurdless of occupation.Look further in to your studies before coming to a conclusion.It is better to be thought of as stupid,then to open your mouth and prove them right.
  59. I found your article interesting and realize it is only offering things to think about when considering a mate. I agree with all of your points and realize you are only pointing out the trends. There are exceptions to every rule but certain professions do attract certain personalities for sure!!
  60. My son is a cook, working to get his chef’s papers. He said last night he would stop any child of his working in the field, due to the insane hours and poor pay. You have to have a passion for the job and accept the fact that all your friends will be in the same field.
  61. Polce. Only high School educated ? You would be very hard pressed to find a police officer being hired these days with only a high school education. The hiring process is very competitive and certain standards must be met prior to even applying. Just driving around ? Yeah, right. Try being a public social worker, parent, guardian, law enforcement officer etc all at once. You have no idea what daily activities are involved. Bad partners ? Realy ? My fiance would beg to differ and the fellow officers I work with are just as great as any other person.
    You, are a moron.
  62. Don’t date Engineers !!!!!!!
    Engineers are geeks….To get into engineering you have to be near the top in math and science and the intensive training circumvents any possibility of social development during critical formative years. The work means extended periods of concentration excluding the possibility of a balanced lifestyle. Too often they get so involved in work for so long they forget they got married and later go on to another serial relationship.
    Simply put…they don’t have the aptitude or the time for a mature balanced relationship…so it is doomed from the start.
    I know…been there done that…and many peers have experienced similar circumstances.
    That being said…An engineer willing to leave the lifestyle to devote time to a relationship long term can be an excellent intelligent partner.
  63. date whoever you want to date. It has nothing to do with profession. It has more to do with who you fall in love with UNLESS it’s a psychiatrist. Stay the hell away from them. They will suck your soul dry and replace it with dark energy from an unknown Universe they secretly communicate with.
  64. Well, talk about discrimination! It’s kinda sad to see these types of articles – it’s as if you have nothing better to do than analyze personnalities – almost like a soap opera. Not all types of personnalities fit into a nice little occupation/ job compartment and your deductions are “out to lunch”. Perhaps there are studies indicating trends as to what type of person would be attracted to doing such a job but why not try getting to know the person you are attracted to and THEN, decide. I wonder if guys spend their time coming-up with these articles just to populate this web-site?
  65. Avoid dentists at all costs…money isn’t everything! Often they are frustrated b/c they didn’t get into med school. Have been unhappily married to a dentist for over 20 years and have never crossed paths with a well adjusted dentist in all of these years. Dentists have one of the highest suicide rates of all professions. That says something!
  66. I totally agree with the real estate agent opinion. They truly do suck to date. When they have time, it is great, but when they are busy, they are very busy and nothing else matters to them except closing that deal. And when a deal falls through they are all depressed. Totally stressful life and stressful to date.
  67. Although I may agree with your list to a degree, you forgot to mention real estate agents as well ( not to date!), as they live and die by their Blackberries, their pagers and many of them are terrible money managers. They donot know how to slice up their commission checks, stashing away money for taxes, etc. and because they live and sleep real estate, their conversations rarely involve anything other then real estate related topics.
    There is also the ones who are in the A & M business. They make the big $’s, but on average they are committed to 80 to 100 hours of work a week. Any deal, any time of the day is what makes them live!
    And finally, accountants. BORING, BORING, BORING!!! Those are my three additions, as I personally know many who have those “Live To Work” personas.
    There IS more to life then ones work or profession.
  68. This is AWESOME!! I am a woman but some of these relationship articles and ‘advice’ are absolutely ludicrous. Focus on the person, not the profession. It also takes certain types of people to cope/live/support partners in different professions. The profession itself doesn’t make for a suitable spouse; however, some people (women and men) are not suitable life partners for people of certain professions. Whatever happened to just common sense when sorting out life’s relationships? There are no hard and fast rules or guidelines.
    Arrgghh…maybe I’m not even making sense??
  69. I have to agree on the para military part, as I have worked with police officers before and they all (except maybe a couple) seem to over exert their power as well as involve themselves in some not so nice activities. I was married to a politician and I work with youth from many walks of life, now the street youth will you tell the reason politicians and police will not push to clean up or change the laws of prostitution. It is because they the police and politicians themselves use the services of sex trade workers again abusing their power. I am shocked when I hear of certain police been investigated from either beating on someone or being involved in a sex scandal other times it doesn’t surprise me. And again not all politicians are involved either but from the ones I know (appx 100 or more) at least 60% have been caught doing something curruptive. Imagine my shock when my ever so loving husband whom at times would come with me to speak to youth in trouble and even worked with police himself was caught using prostitutes, after all of his talks with the youth on not wanting to see them fall to the streets. Not 3 mos later two of his colleagues names would also pop up for the same thing. No respect for me or our two children. And I always felt sorry for some of the wives of certain police officers, as well as the wives of idiot politicians, as nothing is a secret on the inside of the circle of politicians. Just never thought I’d be one of those wives, nor did I think I would see certain couples divorce. My experience in the politician and police officers world if it doesn’t involve you keep your mouth shut. Not anymore I happily get up at forums, mtgs, conferences and speak abt the perverted and currupt ways of our po’s and politicians. I know longer work with the police but still stop to chat with a couple of them at my home town and the next. I’, pretty sure these guys are clean and honest. And I still have a small group of friends in the politician world that were just as shocked as myself to hear abt my husbands sick perv ways, I don’t know what else to call it. I hope that the wives of these men open their eyes, like I said times I am shocked other time not.
  70. OK, I know this article is for “fun”, but could you seriously make it any more juvenile and shallow??? I am married to a police officer who has 3 years of post-secondary education, and is an extremely devoted husband and father. It is sad that so many people have such a ridiculous misconception about these hard working men and women. Why don’t you spend a night doing a ride-along and see what the job actually entails before you assume that they are all a bunch of dummies who drive around in squad cars??? Or perhaps every police officer should refuse to work for a day or two… see what happens then….. I am willing to bet that you’d be eating your words in a big hurry.
  71. Police are para military and women are higher risk of experiencing abuse in relationships with military or para military partners. Don’t believe me? Do your research.
  72. Police Officers Only Have a High School Diploma?
    Obviously you are misinformed about the education a Police Officer must have.
    These days most Canadian police officers are university educated, and at the very
    least, college educated. Their job involves much more than cruising around in a squad car. While there are many firemen who are well built, obviously you haven’t seen the
    majority who are not. Please get your facts straight.
  73. Totally disagree with the top comment.
    I am married to an Engineer who has 4 degrees in Engineering, I have never met a more giving individual.
  74. you forgot chefs/cooks.
    the long hours, the stress, the drugs, the alcohol, the very appreciative waitresses. not to mention the artist mentality.
    trust me, it’s a powder keg.
    and novelist?
    maybe if you’re bagging a successful, published author, with the literary world at his feet, good luck with that.
    might as well go bohemian.
  75. Its not anyones profession that makes the person its how hard you work at it that does and how hard you work at your relationship that matters. I am a fine art photographer/owner of 2 galleries, 26 years of age and I work 60-80 hours a week but I still make time for my significant other. If it means shorter sleep for me then so be it, as long as she is happy and she is very happy, then I am happy. Any profession has there stresses and the one you love should be what helps you get through your day, whether its thinking of her or finally seeing her after a long day. Making her feel like she is the world is what matters. If you think I am one of those guys that has to be good to a woman just to keep her, think again too. I am good looking, charming and quick on my feet. I just want to treat her right, no having too. So if you have a profession in general whether its considered one of the relationship friendly ones or one of the bad ones, it doesn’t have to be bad, its all on the effort you put into it and if they are not willing to put the effort into it then you may want to look elsewhere or understand that we all have good and hopefully less bad qualities. You could date or marry one lawyer and have a horrible experience but date or marry another one after and it could be exactly what you were looking for.
  76. WOW…I am really surprised. I am not surprised that dating a lawyer or policeman/woman or someone in the 911 field is hard. I have dated a poilceman,bartendar and lawyer. I have to say I was a bartendar, private investigator and now going through to be a lawyer BUT an employment lawyer.
    There are different types and kinds of lawyers, I am not the norm, that is for sure!
    I have recently started to see an X that is now a retired cop. No we are not near 65, but he still does some cop things….like i say once a cop always a cop.
    But he knows that after chasing my butt for over 5 yrs now and now I have agreed to “date” I have laid down the “law” and should he not make time for me or think I will be his second or third choice he will find my dust from leaving again and for good this time. He also knows I am not joking and i have a lot to offer him as he does me.
    It takes two to make a relationship work, it should all just come naturally yes, but at the same time if you want it to seriously work then you need to work at it.
    I do not suggest anyone waste their time with anyone that makes others a priority and you an option….kick that to the curb…NEXT.
    you have one life to live, make sure you are happy and who cares what others think. I love my alone time as well, so it just depends are you bot a missing piece to your partners puzzle or just filling in a gap for a short time??
  77. It’s sad to see how women would date and marry guys only based on their profession and income level. What happened to dating and marrying for love? It’s horrible women like you that give us (rare) good women a bad name. I don’t see how any of you women are different than prostitutes. You’re still selling yourselves!
  78. I`m married to a lawyer, but he wasn`t one at the time we met. He was in school doing a science degree. I do have to say though that I`ve met alot of people in the law enforcement area and they may be good at their jobs but terrible at relationships…. !!! I`m not sure I even want to be friends with most of them, I can`t imagine dating any…!
  79. Given the shouting, strong language and tone of your letter (not to mention the spelling and grammatical errors) I can see why you would have trouble dating a teacher.
  80. Teacher my butt!!! They are the WORSE to date.. they always know EVERYTHING and if you don’t have a bunch of letters after your name you’re stupid and know nothing… Men and women.. if a teacher wants to date you fun FAST in the other direction!!!
  81. Wow, Ihere I thought women were like men and married for love. Now I find out it was important for my wife and all you other ladies out there to make sure you marry into a secure, stable future. It seems that the person who wrote this article is a woman who thinks the best marriage is one where she can stay home and eat bon bons while her 1.25 children are in daycare. What about YOUR job? What should men be shopping for? Should a man make sure his woman is worth it before he asks for her hand? What about that dowry, I hope you are coming to the marriage with money and a good education. And since I am a man lets see those hips, child bearing? I like perky boobs and a nice tan so you better be ready to come up with some pre-marriage proof of perfection. Oh and most men like their women pure the day of the wedding. I will of course require a certificate from your doctor certifying….
  82. First off, I love my time alone. I have dated an attorney, schedule and stress was bad. But, the hours spent working did not bother me. The stress I seen him go through was something I would not and could not handle. I suppose that is why he is an attorney, and I never chose this field of work.
    I am now with a guy who works in Law enforcement. And the specific job he has can sometimes call for him to work throughout the night, a couple of hours of sleep, and back to work. He does not have a set schedule as someone who is a patrol officer, which of course can also cause a long night, depending on what happens.
    After a year of dating, which I will admit, was hard due to phone calls that I did not get on time, and I recall once we both took the day off from work, at the last minute, he was called out. For the entire day! (and this was my last vacation day I could take off from work) He did get home safely and that was much more important than losing my vacation day!
    He always told me I was very patient with his work and appreciated that. After one year, we moved in together. Which of course helped alot. We have been together, 11 yrs in July. I do worry about him at work. I do not let the thoughts take over. A few times I have gotten “extra” worried.
    With me being the way I am, not needy and love my time, our relationship has worked out great. I will say, I do not have any friends who can tolerate this schedule.
    Im sure there are other females out there who can tolerate the rough times of not being able to follow through with plans, phone calls not on time, and the danger of the job.
    Why are we not married after 10 yrs? We are engaged and we are happy. It is not his or my fault that we are not married, its something both of us have not planned out yet. We did have plans in motion, and my best friend lost her parents in that specific month. After this horrible situation we have not got back on track as far as plans.
  83. If you think “Most dentists have calm professional lives” then you know nothing. It’s the opposite. Most work long hours and have very stressful lives. There is a reason dentists have the highest suicide rate of all professions.
  84. I just have to say that reading this made me feel super sad to be a women! How pathetic – the reality is that every profession has its good and bad parts. I think we can all think of a male teacher that was useless or even worse flirtatious with high school students. And please a musician is a bad idea, but a novelist isn’t – really the paycheck thing is up in the air for both professions. And I am sorry, but psychiatrists are not that in touch with their feelings – they are MD’s and therefore spend most of their time in medication mode, not therapeutic mode, like a psychologist. For all these professions there are obviously good and bad parts, I think the key is that you find someone who treats you well, respects what you do, and has a passion for what they do.
  85. Polce. Only high School educated ? You would be very hard pressed to find a police officer being hired these days with only a high school education. The hiring process is very competitive and certain standards must be met prior to even applying. Just driving around ? Yeah, right. Try being a public social worker, parent, guardian, law enforcement officer etc all at once. You have no idea what daily activities are involved. Bad partners ? Realy ? My fiance would beg to differ and the fellow officers I work with are just as great as any other person.
    You, are a moron.
  86. Don’t date Engineers !!!!!!!
    Engineers are geeks….To get into engineering you have to be near the top in math and science and the intensive training circumvents any possibility of social development during critical formative years. The work means extended periods of concentration excluding the possibility of a balanced lifestyle. Too often they get so involved in work for so long they forget they got married and later go on to another serial relationship.
    Simply put…they don’t have the aptitude or the time for a mature balanced relationship…so it is doomed from the start.
    I know…been there done that…and many peers have experienced similar circumstances.
    That being said…An engineer willing to leave the lifestyle to devote time to a relationship long term can be an excellent intelligent partner.
  87. date whoever you want to date. It has nothing to do with profession. It has more to do with who you fall in love with UNLESS it’s a psychiatrist. Stay the hell away from them. They will suck your soul dry and replace it with dark energy from an unknown Universe they secretly communicate with.
  88. Well, talk about discrimination! It’s kinda sad to see these types of articles – it’s as if you have nothing better to do than analyze personnalities – almost like a soap opera. Not all types of personnalities fit into a nice little occupation/ job compartment and your deductions are “out to lunch”. Perhaps there are studies indicating trends as to what type of person would be attracted to doing such a job but why not try getting to know the person you are attracted to and THEN, decide. I wonder if guys spend their time coming-up with these articles just to populate this web-site?
  89. Avoid dentists at all costs…money isn’t everything! Often they are frustrated b/c they didn’t get into med school. Have been unhappily married to a dentist for over 20 years and have never crossed paths with a well adjusted dentist in all of these years. Dentists have one of the highest suicide rates of all professions. That says something!
  90. I totally agree with the real estate agent opinion. They truly do suck to date. When they have time, it is great, but when they are busy, they are very busy and nothing else matters to them except closing that deal. And when a deal falls through they are all depressed. Totally stressful life and stressful to date.
  91. Although I may agree with your list to a degree, you forgot to mention real estate agents as well ( not to date!), as they live and die by their Blackberries, their pagers and many of them are terrible money managers. They donot know how to slice up their commission checks, stashing away money for taxes, etc. and because they live and sleep real estate, their conversations rarely involve anything other then real estate related topics.
    There is also the ones who are in the A & M business. They make the big $’s, but on average they are committed to 80 to 100 hours of work a week. Any deal, any time of the day is what makes them live!
    And finally, accountants. BORING, BORING, BORING!!! Those are my three additions, as I personally know many who have those “Live To Work” personas.
    There IS more to life then ones work or profession.
  92. This is AWESOME!! I am a woman but some of these relationship articles and ‘advice’ are absolutely ludicrous. Focus on the person, not the profession. It also takes certain types of people to cope/live/support partners in different professions. The profession itself doesn’t make for a suitable spouse; however, some people (women and men) are not suitable life partners for people of certain professions. Whatever happened to just common sense when sorting out life’s relationships? There are no hard and fast rules or guidelines.
    Arrgghh…maybe I’m not even making sense??
  93. I have to agree on the para military part, as I have worked with police officers before and they all (except maybe a couple) seem to over exert their power as well as involve themselves in some not so nice activities. I was married to a politician and I work with youth from many walks of life, now the street youth will you tell the reason politicians and police will not push to clean up or change the laws of prostitution. It is because they the police and politicians themselves use the services of sex trade workers again abusing their power. I am shocked when I hear of certain police been investigated from either beating on someone or being involved in a sex scandal other times it doesn’t surprise me. And again not all politicians are involved either but from the ones I know (appx 100 or more) at least 60% have been caught doing something curruptive. Imagine my shock when my ever so loving husband whom at times would come with me to speak to youth in trouble and even worked with police himself was caught using prostitutes, after all of his talks with the youth on not wanting to see them fall to the streets. Not 3 mos later two of his colleagues names would also pop up for the same thing. No respect for me or our two children. And I always felt sorry for some of the wives of certain police officers, as well as the wives of idiot politicians, as nothing is a secret on the inside of the circle of politicians. Just never thought I’d be one of those wives, nor did I think I would see certain couples divorce. My experience in the politician and police officers world if it doesn’t involve you keep your mouth shut. Not anymore I happily get up at forums, mtgs, conferences and speak abt the perverted and currupt ways of our po’s and politicians. I know longer work with the police but still stop to chat with a couple of them at my home town and the next. I’, pretty sure these guys are clean and honest. And I still have a small group of friends in the politician world that were just as shocked as myself to hear abt my husbands sick perv ways, I don’t know what else to call it. I hope that the wives of these men open their eyes, like I said times I am shocked other time not.
  94. OK, I know this article is for “fun”, but could you seriously make it any more juvenile and shallow??? I am married to a police officer who has 3 years of post-secondary education, and is an extremely devoted husband and father. It is sad that so many people have such a ridiculous misconception about these hard working men and women. Why don’t you spend a night doing a ride-along and see what the job actually entails before you assume that they are all a bunch of dummies who drive around in squad cars??? Or perhaps every police officer should refuse to work for a day or two… see what happens then….. I am willing to bet that you’d be eating your words in a big hurry.
  95. Police are para military and women are higher risk of experiencing abuse in relationships with military or para military partners. Don’t believe me? Do your research.
  96. Police Officers Only Have a High School Diploma?
    Obviously you are misinformed about the education a Police Officer must have.
    These days most Canadian police officers are university educated, and at the very
    least, college educated. Their job involves much more than cruising around in a squad car. While there are many firemen who are well built, obviously you haven’t seen the
    majority who are not. Please get your facts straight.
  97. Totally disagree with the top comment.
    I am married to an Engineer who has 4 degrees in Engineering, I have never met a more giving individual.
  98. you forgot chefs/cooks.
    the long hours, the stress, the drugs, the alcohol, the very appreciative waitresses. not to mention the artist mentality.
    trust me, it’s a powder keg.
    and novelist?
    maybe if you’re bagging a successful, published author, with the literary world at his feet, good luck with that.
    might as well go bohemian.
  99. Its not anyones profession that makes the person its how hard you work at it that does and how hard you work at your relationship that matters. I am a fine art photographer/owner of 2 galleries, 26 years of age and I work 60-80 hours a week but I still make time for my significant other. If it means shorter sleep for me then so be it, as long as she is happy and she is very happy, then I am happy. Any profession has there stresses and the one you love should be what helps you get through your day, whether its thinking of her or finally seeing her after a long day. Making her feel like she is the world is what matters. If you think I am one of those guys that has to be good to a woman just to keep her, think again too. I am good looking, charming and quick on my feet. I just want to treat her right, no having too. So if you have a profession in general whether its considered one of the relationship friendly ones or one of the bad ones, it doesn’t have to be bad, its all on the effort you put into it and if they are not willing to put the effort into it then you may want to look elsewhere or understand that we all have good and hopefully less bad qualities. You could date or marry one lawyer and have a horrible experience but date or marry another one after and it could be exactly what you were looking for.
  100. WOW…I am really surprised. I am not surprised that dating a lawyer or policeman/woman or someone in the 911 field is hard. I have dated a poilceman,bartendar and lawyer. I have to say I was a bartendar, private investigator and now going through to be a lawyer BUT an employment lawyer.
    There are different types and kinds of lawyers, I am not the norm, that is for sure!
    I have recently started to see an X that is now a retired cop. No we are not near 65, but he still does some cop things….like i say once a cop always a cop.
    But he knows that after chasing my butt for over 5 yrs now and now I have agreed to “date” I have laid down the “law” and should he not make time for me or think I will be his second or third choice he will find my dust from leaving again and for good this time. He also knows I am not joking and i have a lot to offer him as he does me.
    It takes two to make a relationship work, it should all just come naturally yes, but at the same time if you want it to seriously work then you need to work at it.
    I do not suggest anyone waste their time with anyone that makes others a priority and you an option….kick that to the curb…NEXT.
    you have one life to live, make sure you are happy and who cares what others think. I love my alone time as well, so it just depends are you bot a missing piece to your partners puzzle or just filling in a gap for a short time??
  101. It’s sad to see how women would date and marry guys only based on their profession and income level. What happened to dating and marrying for love? It’s horrible women like you that give us (rare) good women a bad name. I don’t see how any of you women are different than prostitutes. You’re still selling yourselves!
  102. I`m married to a lawyer, but he wasn`t one at the time we met. He was in school doing a science degree. I do have to say though that I`ve met alot of people in the law enforcement area and they may be good at their jobs but terrible at relationships…. !!! I`m not sure I even want to be friends with most of them, I can`t imagine dating any…!
  103. Given the shouting, strong language and tone of your letter (not to mention the spelling and grammatical errors) I can see why you would have trouble dating a teacher.
  104. Teacher my butt!!! They are the WORSE to date.. they always know EVERYTHING and if you don’t have a bunch of letters after your name you’re stupid and know nothing… Men and women.. if a teacher wants to date you fun FAST in the other direction!!!
  105. Wow, Ihere I thought women were like men and married for love. Now I find out it was important for my wife and all you other ladies out there to make sure you marry into a secure, stable future. It seems that the person who wrote this article is a woman who thinks the best marriage is one where she can stay home and eat bon bons while her 1.25 children are in daycare. What about YOUR job? What should men be shopping for? Should a man make sure his woman is worth it before he asks for her hand? What about that dowry, I hope you are coming to the marriage with money and a good education. And since I am a man lets see those hips, child bearing? I like perky boobs and a nice tan so you better be ready to come up with some pre-marriage proof of perfection. Oh and most men like their women pure the day of the wedding. I will of course require a certificate from your doctor certifying….
  106. First off, I love my time alone. I have dated an attorney, schedule and stress was bad. But, the hours spent working did not bother me. The stress I seen him go through was something I would not and could not handle. I suppose that is why he is an attorney, and I never chose this field of work.
    I am now with a guy who works in Law enforcement. And the specific job he has can sometimes call for him to work throughout the night, a couple of hours of sleep, and back to work. He does not have a set schedule as someone who is a patrol officer, which of course can also cause a long night, depending on what happens.
    After a year of dating, which I will admit, was hard due to phone calls that I did not get on time, and I recall once we both took the day off from work, at the last minute, he was called out. For the entire day! (and this was my last vacation day I could take off from work) He did get home safely and that was much more important than losing my vacation day!
    He always told me I was very patient with his work and appreciated that. After one year, we moved in together. Which of course helped alot. We have been together, 11 yrs in July. I do worry about him at work. I do not let the thoughts take over. A few times I have gotten “extra” worried.
    With me being the way I am, not needy and love my time, our relationship has worked out great. I will say, I do not have any friends who can tolerate this schedule.
    Im sure there are other females out there who can tolerate the rough times of not being able to follow through with plans, phone calls not on time, and the danger of the job.
    Why are we not married after 10 yrs? We are engaged and we are happy. It is not his or my fault that we are not married, its something both of us have not planned out yet. We did have plans in motion, and my best friend lost her parents in that specific month. After this horrible situation we have not got back on track as far as plans.
  107. If you think “Most dentists have calm professional lives” then you know nothing. It’s the opposite. Most work long hours and have very stressful lives. There is a reason dentists have the highest suicide rate of all professions.
  108. I just have to say that reading this made me feel super sad to be a women! How pathetic – the reality is that every profession has its good and bad parts. I think we can all think of a male teacher that was useless or even worse flirtatious with high school students. And please a musician is a bad idea, but a novelist isn’t – really the paycheck thing is up in the air for both professions. And I am sorry, but psychiatrists are not that in touch with their feelings – they are MD’s and therefore spend most of their time in medication mode, not therapeutic mode, like a psychologist. For all these professions there are obviously good and bad parts, I think the key is that you find someone who treats you well, respects what you do, and has a passion for what they do.

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