Whether he’s trying to seek snide revenge, protect his ego, or simply get your attention, making you jealous is a manipulation tactic that’s not always easy to spot. Keep your eye out for the following behaviour habits that indicate he’s trying to bring out your inner green-eyed monster.
1. He flirts with other girls within earshot.
This might seem obvious, but if he’s overly flirty within your sight / hearing range, he clearly wants you to notice. If he’s visibly not making any attempt to be suave or subtle with the girl in question, it’s a sign he’s not doing it for her, he’s doing it for you.
2. He talks about hot girls with his friends right in front of you.
Engaging in locker room bro banter right in front of you is a direct attempt to shut you out of the conversation, prove his masculinity, and declare that he may not be all that available after all. He wants to show you that he’s capable of being out there, and could have other prospects on the go.
3. He alludes to personal interests or beliefs he’s never talked about before.
Hinting at plans or ideas that seem out of character may be his attempt to make you think there’s a whole world of his own that you don’t know about / aren’t welcome to. For example, a sudden interest in travel or quitting his job could be his way of painting a portrait of himself as a free spirit who does whatever he wants, whenever he wants.
4. He posts pictures of himself partying / with other girls on Facebook.
Again, another way of asserting his independence. He’s trying to make you feel threatened and make him feel better about himself.
5. He makes elaborate plans then break them last minute.
He’s trying to build you up then let you crash. The more grandiose the gesture he doesn’t follow through on, the more he wants you to notice.
Sometimes, our response to feeling insecure is to try and make other people feel just as insecure as we do. We have our egos to thank for that one. If you suspect your partner is trying to make you jealous, talk to him about what’s really going on in his head. Did something happen to make him feel unwelcome or inadequate? Make a deal to quit with the games and be straight up with each other. Your relationship will be much better for it.