Every girl needs one bad boy in her life, to get the thrill out of the way and be able to have something to compare when you find yourself in a healthy relationship. But if you find yourself consistently drawn to bad boys and their bad behavior, you may be addicted to the drama this type of relationship brings.
Bad boys are fun but they aren’t good for you in the long run. If you’re constantly caught up in these types of relationships, let’s figure out why.
I know you’re probably too smart for this one, but maybe you have a friend who is involved with a married beau?
Married guys who cheat are the baddest of the bad boys, and they know how to play it. Their wife doesn’t understand him, doesn’t have time for him, and hasn’t had sex with him in a year (or whatever the sob story is). You are the only one who can understand him. Please, please don’t fall for this.
If you are addicted to married guys, talk to some married friends and see how they would feel about their husbands cheating on them. Think about how you would feel. Any guy who cheats on his wife is a jerk, and you deserve better than a jerk. Plus, your friends are sick of listening to you complain about him not leaving his wife (drama!).
He is similar to married guy except he’s not married, but otherwise he is very similar.
His current girlfriend(s) don’t understand him, don’t give him what he needs, yada, yada, yada. Again, don’t fall for this. Once a cheater, always a cheater, and if you think he won’t cheat on you, think again. At the risk of repeating myself, you deserve better.
Really bad guy
This guy drinks too much, may take drugs, is probably not employed. Why oh why would you fall for this guy? I’ll tell you why – because he is bad to the bone and usually, super hot. You’d be surprised how many women fall for this guy, because he appeals to that side of us that thinks we can save him. Saving him is the same as changing him, and it’s not going to happen.
There are other types of bad boys, but I think you get my drift. So what can you do about it?
How to take a break from the bad boys
Do you think you’re not good enough for good guys? Do you think no decent guy would want to be with you? If this is the reason behind your bad boy crushes, please talk to a good friend or even a counselor to get help with this. Are you looking for a thrill “ bad boys are exciting. At least, at first.
Maybe you have a need to tame or fix him. But after picking yourself up time and time again, after the cheating and the lying and the broken dates (never mind the number of times you’ve had to pay for dates or loan him money), the thrill should really be over for you.
Are you still subconsciously defying your parents or is that how the habit started and now you can’t break it?
As silly as it sounds, a small part of you may still be rebelling and looking for that guy to be a rebel with. After all, dating a married man certainly defies the social morals your parents probably embraced. Like smoking cigarettes when you are a teen, sometimes the bad habits start and years later they are still with you.
And finally, are you afraid to commit, so you seek out these unavailable men?
If this is the case, realize that it is fine to not want to commit to a relationship, but that there are other, less painful ways to go about it. You can find a guy you’d like to date on a casual basis who isn’t a bad boy, thereby saving yourself a lot of lies, pain, drama and heartache.
Above all , please understand you are nothing more than a conquest to a bad boy, and no matter what he says or what you do, he will eventually replace you. That alone should be enough to help you break the habit.
After all, don’t you deserve better?