As hard as it is to let go of friendships, sometimes a best friend can turn into a bad friend.
Here’s how to tell if it’s time to let go.
She makes you feel guilty
Does your friend get upset or angry when you tell her you can’t afford to do something or go somewhere that she wants to go? Or does she blame you for not making enough time for her, when you work two jobs and have other commitments?
If you constantly feel guilty when it comes to her, it’s likely not because you did something wrong “ it’s probably because she’s making you feel like you did. This perpetual cycle of guilt trips takes an emotional toll, especially if you’re constantly trying to make up for something or win her back, instead of simply enjoying your friend.
She constantly creates drama
If she’s the type who always has a story of how someone wronged her, some controversy at work or in her romantic life, you may find yourself exhausted and exasperated by the constant conflict. She thrives on drama and is instant on filling you in on all of the details, and when day, she may make you a part of it.
When was the last time she seemed genuinely interested in your life? Does she ask you about work, your relationship? Does she offer you advice, guidance and support? Do you feel comfortable confiding in her the honest details of your life?
If she’s only interested in one topic “ herself “ then you definitely need to have a talk about your needs. Perhaps she doesn’t realize she’s a conversational bulldozer. But if all she requires is a silent sounding board and you’re constantly feeling ignored and taken for granted, it’s time to find a more equal friendship.
If she’s possessive of you and your time and jealous of your other relationships and obligations, that’s a big warning sign. A healthy friendship needs balance and your pal should want you to be happy and busy, with and without her. Jealousy can turn nasty very quickly “ this is one to be wary of.
Did your best friend become your frenemy? What happened to split you up? How did you deal? Share with us.