What’s the difference between a deal breaker and a red flag? You usually only see the latter clearly after you’ve ignored it at first. Before you change your relationship status on Facebook, take one last look for these red flags:
1. He lives in another province/state/country:
Long distance is the wrong distance, sister.
2. He’s not sure if he’s a father or not:
Your parental status should never be a gray area. If he’s not totally sure about that baby his ex-girlfriend is holding in Facebook pictures, you probably need to give him enough space to figure out that conundrum himself.
3. He hates smoking.
Unless you smoke, then it’s fine: A dude who can’t stick to his guns is a dude you’re going to walk all over. And that’s only fun for like, 2 weeks, tops.
4. You’ve never seen him sober
This should be a dealbreaker, but you’d be surprised how often this one sneaks through. If he can’t hang out with you in the absence of light beer or whiskey, his potential as a long-term suitor is shakier than his hands after a long night out.
5. He has never had a girlfriend
Unless he’s 15, that’s not a good sign. And even at 15, you don’t want to be his romantic training wheels.
6. He calls you bro
And you’re not a dude. And he’s not being ironic.
7. He talks down to you
So you didn’t know that the crack in your kitchen wall indicated that the foundation of your building might be shifting. Big deal! You’re renting! He didn’t need to make you feel bad about it!
8. He hates your family
He doesn’t get to hate your family unless you legitimately hate them, too. And you shouldn’t hate your family. They love you. Call your mother.
9. He’s bad with money
If he’s consistently spending his last $5 on beef jerky and Dr. Pepper, he’s not likely going to be the best partner to build a future with. But if the only future you’re looking for is filled with Dr. Pepper and beef jerky, carry on.
10. He doesn’t own real furniture
A milk-crate entertainment center is only charming in college. And once you’re an adult, keeping your mattress on the floor is on par with sleeping on a pile of dirty rags.
What are the red flags you watch out for? More importantly, which are the ones you’ve missed?
1. My first really serious relationship spanned two continents, and we got MARRIED 2 years later.
2. If his girlfriend cheated and got pregnant and he was man enough to raise the kid, that’s a plus point in my book.
3. I hate smoking too. Why should I like it? As it happens my partner smokes. Her stopping is up to her, but she doesn’t smoke where I have to inhale it. If she was that inconsiderate I’d kick HER to the kerb.
4. If I was dating you I probably wouldn’t be sober either!
The second half of this list is too ridiculous to even comment on. What planet are you on!?!
RELATIONSHIP RED FLAGS YOU CAN’T IGNORE
By Nora McInerny
Comment : Total Trash to an extreme. This person is obviously an immature and superficial personality who has never lived a REAL life. (Re: 3. He hates smoking. 5. He has never had a girlfriend)
The two points listed have absolutely NOTHING to do with whether he is a good guy or not. This is total trash written by someone who has obviously failed miserably at life and romantic relationships.
Get a real job!
1. My first really serious relationship spanned two continents, and we got MARRIED 2 years later.
2. If his girlfriend cheated and got pregnant and he was man enough to raise the kid, that’s a plus point in my book.
3. I hate smoking too. Why should I like it? As it happens my partner smokes. Her stopping is up to her, but she doesn’t smoke where I have to inhale it. If she was that inconsiderate I’d kick HER to the kerb.
4. If I was dating you I probably wouldn’t be sober either!
The second half of this list is too ridiculous to even comment on. What planet are you on!?!
RELATIONSHIP RED FLAGS YOU CAN’T IGNORE
By Nora McInerny
Comment : Total Trash to an extreme. This person is obviously an immature and superficial personality who has never lived a REAL life. (Re: 3. He hates smoking. 5. He has never had a girlfriend)
The two points listed have absolutely NOTHING to do with whether he is a good guy or not. This is total trash written by someone who has obviously failed miserably at life and romantic relationships.
Get a real job!