It seems that ever since David Duchovny came out of the adultery closet and admitted that his “other woman” was his computer, women around the nation started to question the amount of time their husbands spend watching porn. It’s rampant “ even Apple designed its new iPad to block pornographic content. So your boyfriend clicks around a bit – no big deal right? Well, for Té©a Leoni it became a really big deal. At what point should his appetite for porn lead you to check your bank balance for rehab funds?
Watching porn doesn’t mean you are dating a creeper, or you have a stage 5 pervert on your hands (heck, most guys consider it a feat to be able to hold down a job when they could be at home watching high-def porn all day!). But, if at any point his appetite for porn continually starts to affect you and your relationships dynamic – it’s a good time to address the other woman and hope that he’s willing to sacrifice his time watching her, for spending it with you.
Has it started to affect your sex life?
Porn can be a tool to enhance your sex life. But if it has gotten to the point that he will only take his socks off while there is company in the room “ then it might be time to re-evaluate. The minute he becomes less interested in you and more interested in the cast members it’s likely a good time for you to evaluate if you would be happier without the other women in the room.
Does he spend more time with them, than with you?
It’s really hard to assume that those that spend countless hours on the computer are having too much me time. However, if you are constantly catching him checking out women slightly bustier than you – or his excessive post 9-to-5 computer time locked in his office has become an issue – question him. The only thing he should have on his lap before bed is you – not his computer.
Has it become an issue financially?
If you start to notice that there’s been an increased number of random charges to your cable bill or you caught a glimpse of his credit card bill and it reads like a tourist guide to porn sites, this all calls for concern. You don’t want that nest egg you’ve been saving for your wedding later have to support his relationship with his friends online.
