Are you feeling like your relationship might not be as fulfilling as you once thought it would be? Do you find yourself wondering what your life could be like if you weren’t tied down? If you identify with any of the 6 following cue’s, you might need to rethink your relationship.
You’d rather spend time alone.
You find yourself making excuses to not hang out, or you wish the time away that you spend together, planning what you’d rather be doing. Think back to the way you felt when you first started dating when things were exciting “ chances are, spending time with your partner was something you were 100% present for. If you’ve lost that, it’s probably a sign you’re not satisfied.
You try to talk yourself into it.
You cling to the good days, the happy memories, search for the little things that keep you hanging on. When we’re truly love, we should be able to accept that person part and parcel with all their flaws and their good parts, without needing to pick out aspects that make up for the stuff we don’t like.
You feel the need to make excuses for your partner to others.
When you find yourself justifying his quirks to your friends for fear they’ll judge you, it shows that you’re not exactly eager to shout from the rooftops that you’re together. You should be proud to be with your partner, not self conscious about him.
You’re jealous of your single friends.
Maybe you try to live vicariously through your single friends, or you lament the fact that you can’t participate in their activities. This is a way of trying to achieve a different life for yourself. Even though you’re not cheating, you’re not being faithful. Don’t be afraid to talk to your partner about it.
You’re irrationally irritated by the little things your partner does.
The next time you fight with your partner, ask yourself why you’re fighting – is it something bigger than the issue at hand? The argument might have been set off by something small, but spiralled into something else entirely unrelated. If this is an overarching theme in your relationship, the underlying issues are probably going untouched.
You wonder what you saw in your partner at first.
At a loss trying to remember what stoked those flames of romance when you first hooked up? There are tons of different reasons why the spark fizzles in a relationship – you just have to ask yourself if you’re willing to work to get it back.
If you discover that you’re unsatisfied with your relationship, no matter what course of action you choose, start by bringing it up directly. It might be uncomfortable but you owe it to yourself and your partner to be honest.