He’s cute, smart, funny and available”in other words, the perfect guy. But he’s also your friend’s ex. Should you date him? Don’t even think about it. Trust us”not only are there plenty more fish in the sea, but when you date your pal’s former squeeze, you’ll be wearing a lot of labels (and they won’t be Gucci or Prada). Let us explain:
The Rebound Girl: You know why they broke up”your friend has told you about all the messy details, from the knock-down, drag-out fights to the exhilarating make-up sex. Talk about TMI (too much information). Are you sure it will be different with you? Even worse: his experience with her will still be on his mind, so get ready to hear even more about it. Can you handle it?
The New Girl: If he’s just out of a serious relationship with her, he could be looking at you as just a short-term fling. Plus, he’ll know you’re disloyal to your friends, so he may lose respect for you. You’ll be known as the girl he’s with for now”not the girlfriend you want to be.
The Side Dish: How are you going to explain this one to your other friends and family? Will you tell them the truth about how you two met or reveal why you’re no longer friends with your girlfriend? Be prepared to do a lot of explaining.
The Gossip Girl: Get ready to be the target of gossip, whether it’s at your workplace, the bar, the gym or on Facebook. Can you blame them? You’re the one that did the unthinkable: you’re dating him.
The Ex-Friend: It goes without saying that if you date a friend’s ex, you’re going to lose that friend. Are you okay with that? It’s sure to put a strain on your other girlfriends as well, causing most to take sides. Pretty soon, you’ll be off the email list, un-friended on Facebook and deleted from the texting circle. Is it worth it? We didn’t think so.