Jessica Simpson and Jennifer Aniston aren’t the only ones having trouble navigating the dating pool. Whether you’re a celebrity or not, dating seems to get more and more complicated each year, with the rules constantly changing. (Should I ask him out? Is it okay to text him? Who should pay?)
But there are a few dating basics that remain tried and true, so follow these do’s and don’ts while you make your way through the dating game.
Do’s
- Pay attention to your date. Make eye contact, listen and respond appropriately. Don’t talk on your cell phone, text your friends or wonder about how much he makes. Ask questions and show you’re interested.
- Offer to split the bill. Nothing turns a man off faster than a woman who doesn’t even pretend to reach for her purse when the bill comes. Don’t get me wrong, I think he should pay, especially on the first date, but because he wants to, not because you won’t.
- Show off your personality, especially your sense of humor. Don’t pretend to be someone else “ he’s dating you because he wants to get to know you. And please, please don’t act stupid.
- Be courteous. Be ready on time. Thank him for holding open doors. Be polite to the wait staff. Compliment him on the way he looks, his choice of wine, whatever.
- Be honest. If there is no chemistry, don’t encourage him. If you like him, let him know you’d like to see him again. (But try to avoid seeming desperate “ you know: Can I see you again? How about next Thursday? At eight? Nine?)
Don’t
- Don’t drink too much! You should know why “ you lose your judgment, you get sloppy, you do things you’ll regret tomorrow. Plus, a lot of men find this a turn off. Know your limits and stick to them.
- Don’t talk about your last boyfriend or ex-husband. This can be threatening, and it is also just poor manners. He’ll take it as a sign that you haven’t gotten over your last man. Do you want to listen to him talk about his ex-girlfriend or wife?
- Don’t talk too much about yourself. It’s great to answer his questions and tell him your interests, but remember to ask about him as well. Get to know each other but don’t turn it into a monologue about yourself.
- Don’t take calls on your cell phone or text people. See above. It’s just plain rude.
- Don’t lead him on. If you don’t like him or don’t feel any connection, don’t pretend you can’t wait for him to call so you can see him again. This can be difficult, I know, but it is much classier to tell him you’d rather just be friends than to lie and humiliate him.
- Don’t be pretentious. Don’t act like you are too good for him or too good for wherever he takes you, even if it’s some place you wouldn’t normally be caught dead. A classy girl always makes people feel comfortable. And who knows, you might enjoy yourself at that bowling alley.
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First of all, I am very sorry to acknowledge your situation, that is absolutely unfair, the man you believed he was all good, sweet, and generous, and then he comes to back stabbed you (hypothetically speaking), he is not a real gentleman. I have no respect for those men who do that to their woman; you deserve much better.
I am gentleman, 26 years of age and I can treat a woman should be treated with Equality that she deserves.
Nonetheless, most men do not know common sense when they see it, its sad to say but its true. On the other hand, most men have absolutely no consideration whatsoever when it comes to providing the fundamental items or assets that she needs or desires to have. To conclude, women are only asking for the least, which is the love, comfort, financial stability, and security they deserve. Its not difficult.
~george.
First of all, I am very sorry to acknowledge your situation, that is absolutely unfair, the man you believed he was all good, sweet, and generous, and then he comes to back stabbed you (hypothetically speaking), he is not a real gentleman. I have no respect for those men who do that to their woman; you deserve much better.
I am gentleman, 26 years of age and I can treat a woman should be treated with Equality that she deserves.
Nonetheless, most men do not know common sense when they see it, its sad to say but its true. On the other hand, most men have absolutely no consideration whatsoever when it comes to providing the fundamental items or assets that she needs or desires to have. To conclude, women are only asking for the least, which is the love, comfort, financial stability, and security they deserve. Its not difficult.
~george.
Naive women will think that if he is generous in the first dates he will be generous in marriage. HA! That’s an old trick. Beware of the first foot forward…. Sometimes generosity early isn’t about a generous character at all.
Someone who is balanced and isn’t over generous creates the thought that he is reliable and wise, which is what security is based on. Isn’t security what women seek, perhaps even more than love?? Do Tell.
To the younger guys, I tell them to never spend more than $40 on a first date.
Hope this Helps!
As a reference point, I have great relationships with men that adore me.
Good luck!
Women need to act like women and let a man be a man. You can’t change the genetic make up no matter how emancipated you may think you are.
If you don’t believe me, do your own mini poll and ask men what they want from women.
Naive women will think that if he is generous in the first dates he will be generous in marriage. HA! That’s an old trick. Beware of the first foot forward…. Sometimes generosity early isn’t about a generous character at all.
Someone who is balanced and isn’t over generous creates the thought that he is reliable and wise, which is what security is based on. Isn’t security what women seek, perhaps even more than love?? Do Tell.
To the younger guys, I tell them to never spend more than $40 on a first date.
Hope this Helps!
As a reference point, I have great relationships with men that adore me.
Good luck!
Women need to act like women and let a man be a man. You can’t change the genetic make up no matter how emancipated you may think you are.
If you don’t believe me, do your own mini poll and ask men what they want from women.
If you don’t want to hear about someone’s ex, than don’t talk about yours. If you hate people that are late, don’t be late. Dating isn’t a big mystery.
“Smarten up ladies” ???!!! That’s not terribly chivalrous advice. Kindness on both sides works. 🙂
I am a classy woman I do not get man that the next 5 min. all they talk about is SEX
do not get me wrong I love sex (i love making love )..men go on site and expecte woman to give them self away …they are horny they want to nkow my favorite position..do I shave what is really wrong with these men .. loll Are you interested of nkowing me first ???
I let my 26 year old daughter and her friends read my messages and they cannot beleive it …
we laugh about it …but really
The reason why I never let my date (for the first dozen dates or so, unless he has some grand gesture thing planned or it’s my birthday) pay the whole thing is that I never want to feel like I am in a position where I ‘owe’ him something. We are then always on equal footing as we get to know one another.
Some things, however, never change. For instance, if a man sleeps around, he’s a stallion. If a woman sleeps around, we all know what she’s called. Chivalry is a man’s role and that’s all footing a bill is. Chivalry. Like opening a door or having her walk on the inside of the sidewalk.
If you want true equality, then you’d better walk the walk. Like tonight, you’re on top. Tomorrow, she’s wearing the strap-on.
If you don’t want to hear about someone’s ex, than don’t talk about yours. If you hate people that are late, don’t be late. Dating isn’t a big mystery.
“Smarten up ladies” ???!!! That’s not terribly chivalrous advice. Kindness on both sides works. 🙂
I am a classy woman I do not get man that the next 5 min. all they talk about is SEX
do not get me wrong I love sex (i love making love )..men go on site and expecte woman to give them self away …they are horny they want to nkow my favorite position..do I shave what is really wrong with these men .. loll Are you interested of nkowing me first ???
I let my 26 year old daughter and her friends read my messages and they cannot beleive it …
we laugh about it …but really
The reason why I never let my date (for the first dozen dates or so, unless he has some grand gesture thing planned or it’s my birthday) pay the whole thing is that I never want to feel like I am in a position where I ‘owe’ him something. We are then always on equal footing as we get to know one another.
Some things, however, never change. For instance, if a man sleeps around, he’s a stallion. If a woman sleeps around, we all know what she’s called. Chivalry is a man’s role and that’s all footing a bill is. Chivalry. Like opening a door or having her walk on the inside of the sidewalk.
If you want true equality, then you’d better walk the walk. Like tonight, you’re on top. Tomorrow, she’s wearing the strap-on.