After every breakup there is a moment when you realize that its time to throw out the ice cream, turn off the chick flicks, put on some pants that don’t have an elastic waistband and get back on the proverbial horse. This is where the rebound guy comes into play. When approached properly, rebound romances can be a lot of fun and they can give you that necessary confidence boost needed to get you back in the game.
When seeking out your rebound relationship lover-boy, always keep this mantra in mind: this is just a rebound. This relationship doesn’t need to go anywhere. Without the pressure of finding Mr. Right, you can focus on finding Mr. Right now. More often than not this guy is a lot more fun.
The rebound period is a great opportunity to date someone you wouldn’t normally date. If you usually go for type A suits, maybe try saying yes to that dreadlocked barista who has been giving you the eye for the past few months. Or, if you usually go for skinny jean wearing indie-rock loving hipster dudes, why not try switching your focus to that buff personal trainer from your gym that keeps asking you out for smoothies. Sure, dating these guys might mean that you have to deal with some stuff that you’re not used to for example, excessive exposure to reggae or dinner that is made of 90% whey protein but, different is exactly what the rebound is all about. You may decide that you hate all of these things or may you decide you love them. Rebound romances are a great way to tap into what kinds of guys you really are into or open yourself up to new possibilities.
Whatever you do, don’t try and find an instant replacement for your ex. Going after someone who reminds you of your ex isn’t going to help you move forward. Most likely, it will just make you feel more confused. Secondly, there is a reason you broke up with your ex in the first place.
Regardless of what kind of guy you choose to date the emphasis should be on finding someone who is fun to be around and who makes you feel good. This is not the time to experiment with dating Danny Downer types. If you want to feel depressed there is a sofa with a bum dent waiting for you at home. No date required.
Rebound romances by nature are destined to fail. So just remember to go into it with zero expectations, relax and see where things go. You never know “ the protein shake chugging gym bunny could be the one “ or NOT. Even if your rebound relationship blows up in your face, hopefully you’ll walk away with a little bit more oomph in your step so when Mr. Right does come along you’re ready.