In the past few years we’ve heard a lot about bro code (and that lovely phrase, bros before hos), but not too much about girls standing up for other girls. What fundamental signs of respect do we owe other women? We thought we’d get the ball rolling by brainstorming a few ways to strengthen our sense of sisterhood. Let us know what you think in the comments.
The Ex Factor
It’s obvious that the question of whether to date your friends’ exes is always a thorny one. But sometimes it becomes a little less clear cut “ what if they dated in high school and have been broken up for a decade? What if she only had a little crush on him, or they only kissed once at a party? No matter what you decide, your friend will always appreciate it if you come to her first, before taking any action. This is not the time for that old mantra, better to beg forgiveness than to ask permission, because if you really hurt your friend, you may not get that forgiveness.
Respect the Girl Time
If you’re paired off and your friend isn’t, you’ve got to put yourself in her shoes “ would you want her to drag along the boyfriend to every concert or brunch date? So while your single friends should accept that your calendar will be a little more full when you’re in a relationship, you also have to make sure that you prioritize quality time. These girls got you through thick and thin, and if things don’t work out with your current man, you’ll want them to be there for thin again.
Steer Clear of Men in Relationships
This a no-brainer “ to some extent, you do owe this other woman (even if you’ve never met her) the respect of staying away from her boyfriend. That said, when it comes down to crunch time, the greatest responsibility always, always lies with the person who was actually in that relationship (he made the commitment, right?). So when cheating occurs, whether in real life or in the gossip pages, try to avoid homewrecker comments and remember that the true blame lies with the person who cheated on their partner.
Don’t Diss the Boyfriend
If your friend is having guy problems, it’ll be tempting to jump on the bandwagon and tell her what you really think of his ridiculous haircut or his unhealthy relationship with his mother. But chances are, she’ll make up with the guy, making it more awkward for you to pretend to get along with him after you’ve spent several hours explaining exactly why he’s an idiot (she, of course, gets a pass on this). So try to keep your sympathy moderate until the relationship is really over (unless of course you think your friend might actually be the victim of an abusive relationship, in which case you have to be honest).
Stick Together on a Night Out
This one seems pretty simple, but you really could save your friend simply by keeping an eye on her or putting her into a cab to make sure she gets home safe.