Some sex questions go unanswered for years “ you’re too shy to quiz a professional and you’ve tried asking your friends, but they’re either too coy to talk sex or are no more informed than you.
Ponder no more; the internet was made for answering embarrassing questions!
It’s time to put your steamiest sex issues to bed.
Q. I have orgasms during oral sex, but never during intercourse. Is something wrong?
A. Absolutely not
It’s estimated that only 25 percent of women are able to have orgasms from intercourse alone, and 12 percent of women never have orgasms at all. Give your partner these stats if he’s feeling a little performance anxiety, and try not to think of it as a problem.
You can still enjoy intercourse and just take your orgasms as they come (hah!).
Q. How can I change how I smell down there?
A. Usually, there’s nothing wrong. (And funnily enough, most men seem to think it’s just fine!)
If the smell has changed dramatically over time or you’re experiencing heavy vaginal discharge, see your gyno to check it out (you may have a yeast or bacterial infection). Stay away from douching products and feminine wipes “ they’ll only upset your vagina’s pH balance and lead to more problems down the road.
Some experts recommend trying to help your body’s pH balance from the inside instead, by taking probiotic foods (like plain yogurt) and supplements.
Q. My partner and I want to try anal sex. How do we go about it?
A. First of all, condoms are an absolute must (even if you’re doing this with someone you trust).
Since the anus doesn’t produce natural lubrication, it’s more prone to tearing, so make sure to use plenty of lubricant (though steer clear of oil-based lubricants like Vaseline, which can break down condoms). Condoms will also help to keep you and your partner from spreading bacteria to your vagina and vice versa, which can result in yeast and urinary tract infections.
Q. Why has my libido taken a sudden nosedive?
A. It always helps to talk to your partner about problems in the bedroom, but this is one issue that isn’t always emotional.
Medications are often to blame for a decreased sex drive, especially antidepressants and blood pressure meds. You may also want to talk to your doctor about your contraception options, since hormonal birth control pills can sometimes affect your sex drive. If you think stress is the culprit, figure out as a couple how you can work around this (for example, a time of day/night, or even a day of the week when you’ll both be less tired or busy).
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