Moving in with your partner is a big step, not to be taken without really mulling it over. While talking it through with your partner is important, there are some questions only you can answer. If you’re wondering whether or not to take the plunge and shack up with your lover, ask yourself these 5 questions.
1. Am I 100% comfortable around him1?
Does thethought of your dude being around first thing in the morning to when you comehome from partying with your friends excite you, or make you worry? It might beeasy to picture hanging around on the couch on lazy Sunday afternoons together,but be realistic and ask yourself how you’ll feel when there are beard hairs perpetually littering your sink.
2. How much time have we spent together?
If you’vebeen on vacay or travelled together for an extended period of time, you’ll have a bit better idea of what it’s like to live together. Did you and pull eachother’s hair out over bathroom time, closet space, or who was footing the billfor dinner that night? Obviously, delegating chores is a lot different thanvacation tasks, but if you were still going strong after the intimacy ofspending more than a few days in each other’s presence, it’s a promising sign you’ll gel in real life.
3. Is this best for me financially?
Make sure you’re both clear on how you’ll be dealing with bills. Utilities, rent, groceries“ it’s all important to talk about what will be shared, and who will take careof what. Be practical. If you can see yourself spending even a small chunk ofyour hard earned cheddar on his beer bill and you’re not willing, don’t do it.
4. Are we struggling already?
If your relationship is in the red zone as it is, moving in together will put it under more stress. Don’t treat moving in together as a drastic-measure move to save your dwindling romance. Give your relationship some rehab time before you makethe decision.
5. Am I prepared to compromise every day?
Living withyour partner will require a heightened level of compromise than you may be usedto. If, for example, you’re a night owl and he hits the hay early, make sureyou’re ready to address some rejection issues if you don’t want to cuddle inbed at 9 PM. The same goes for if you’re even slightly grossed out by his levelof meat consumption, or hate the music he plays in the morning. You need to beable to communicate in a straight forward way about what you can tolerate andwhat you just can’t. Expect the same level of honesty from him too, otherwise,one of you will inevitably bail