With the sad state of the dating world and the economy these days, you may simply be grateful to find a guy who has a job…any job. But, remember that a job is a defining element of a person’s personality and a guy’s career can offer some clues if he’s the right one for you.
If you’re going to get choosy (and you have every right to be), it’s obvious that some jobs are better than others for the man you get involved with. For example: the ones that pay really well will enable you to eat really well (on the nights he doesn’t work through dinner) and the ones that have him working from home may mean he’s perpetually swaddled in his bathrobe. Below, a primer on the best and worst careers for your mate.
BEST
Teachers: A man who can teach has already shown that he’s smart, understanding, patient and nurturing. Plus he gets summers off! Think of the great vacations you can take, and lazy summer mornings on the back deck.
Dentists: It’s like dating a doctor without the crazy hours and the annoying beeper. Most dentists have calm professional lives, with the exception of the occasional last minute root canal, the height of his professional excitement. Basically you can be sure he won’t be leaping out of bed to perform emergency surgery on the weekend. Plus, since most people are petrified of the dentist, many have lovely, patient personalities.
Novelists: A creative, expressive and passionate man, he’s also sensitive and curious and typically makes his own hours, which leaves plenty of time for you.
Engineers: With an education that leaned heavily toward math and science, these men are practical, reasonable, methodical and dedicated. Crazy hours come with occasional deadlines, but these pass.
Psychiatrists: He’s kind, intuitive, understanding and not (gasp) afraid to talk about feelings.
WORST
Bankers: He’s obsessed with money and, since time equals money, he will spend a lot of time away from you making more money. He’s also used to being the boss and making the decisions, which may make you crazy.
Pediatricians: Get ready to have a cold a month with a baby doctor in the house. If you don’t mind a lot of missed dates, constant vitamin C supplementation and teapots full of chamomile, he may be right for you. The upside: he’s probably great with kids.
Lawyers: The worst clichés often prove to be true with lawyers… the profession attracts a cold, calculated kind of intelligence and a competitive, cut-throat edge. Be prepared for long hours come trial time and remember that he may spend days poring over a brief instead of your briefs.
Musicians: Sure, he’s sexy, and can strum you a song, but he doesn’t wake up until 4pm and won’t be home until at least 12 hours from then. The income is unsteady and his guitar obsession is anything but cheap. He may choose to spend his cash on a new fader pedal over date night. And of course there’s another downside: groupies.
Police/firemen: Erratic, long and exhausting hours, plus you’ll make yourself crazy worrying about him. This is a dangerous profession… and that’s not even considering the whole damsel in distress schtick.
Bartenders: He works all hours and comes in smelling like stale beer and cigarettes. Plus, it’s practically part of his job description to flirt with drunk women… in the interest of tips, naturally.
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i wanna date a michelin starred chef
I’m a non-profit lawyer and my husband is a police officer. We both work long hours but we are very happy together.
If you give any credence to this kind of dribble, you deserve the unhappiness coming to you. You do not find love by assessing someone’s employment or other trivialities. Look for compassion, humor, kindness, interest, and commitment. They come in all kinds of packages: handsome bankers, ugly musicians, short lawyers, tall garbage men and everything in between. Use your brain and your gut.
Honestly, people.
Teachers unfortunately here in the U.S. are just plain poor and make sh*t for money for all the work they do. Also with teachers that say this BS of it’s not about the money it’s about the students… Yeah well great it’s nice to be selfless once in awhile but at the same time the government runs all over teachers cause they say it’s not about the money it’s about the students and the teacher “system” is so effed up (backwards). At the same time teachers need to DEMAND a lot better pay.
I think bankers and accountants need to be added to the Best to date list. Accountants are not like the boring people they used to be like 20 years ago. Accountants are cool, they have awesome hours just like Bankers.
Do NOT date a psychiatrist ladies, please. Spare yourselves.
In my friends’ group, the accountants are actually the most chilled out ones…you would expect a boring nerd, but no, they’re all fun, level-headed guys with normal schedules.
Every woman seems to be looking for “Mr Right” — as in good looking, financially successful, nice bod and *then* all the other ‘good personality’, etc. kicks in as a consideration …
In my friends’ group, the accountants are actually the most chilled out ones…you would expect a boring nerd, but no, they’re all fun, level-headed guys with normal schedules.
Every woman seems to be looking for “Mr Right” — as in good looking, financially successful, nice bod and *then* all the other ‘good personality’, etc. kicks in as a consideration …
I can see that many posters are looking for men with high paying jobs, great people skills and lots of free time to go out on dates and take care of the family/house. Well, marry a **** pharmacist. That is the best profession in the world, and I regret not having gone to pharmacy school.
Seriously, though. My father is a lawyer, and my mother a dentist. They both hate their professions. My mother was so exhausted from work that she developed major depression, and my family almost disintegrated.
Marry someone who is happy, and who loves you. If each of you make $40k a year, that is more than enough to live and raise a family. If you want more than that, you have issues. You want a yatch and a Lamborghini? Then look for an investment banker (the worst people on the face of this earth).
Just a thought on the lawyer argument, only a small percent actually go to trial. A lot are responsible for contracts and many jobs can be found that are 9-5…. lets hope bankruptcy is one of those 9-5 jobs.
I am dating an investment banker & can vouch for the time issues, as with lawyers. I maintain a full busy life myself, so being patient for him is not too much of an aggravation. My problem sometimes lays in him being able to keep his word with time…. 7PM for dinner turns into 10PM, for instance.
IT DOES NOT MATTER WHAT PROFESSION YOUR BOYFRIEND/HUSBAND/GIRLFRIEND/WIFE (LET’S NOT BE HETEROSEXIST) IS. YOU DON’T “DATE A PROFESSION”—YOU DATE A PERSON.
AND NOW THAT THE MAJORITY OF WOMEN WORK AND HAVE SUCCESSFUL CAREERS, WE SHOULD NOT BE CONCERNING OURSELVES WITH SUCH ANTIQUATED IDEAS OF MANHOOD AND MASCULNITY.
ARE THERE ANY “ARTICLES” GEARED TOWARDS MEN ABOUT ARE THE BEST “PROFESSIONS TO DATE”?
WHO’S WITH ME ON THIS????
On the plus side, you DO make good money, and once you have made your monthly miles, you can be off for up to a couple weeks at a time. The pension is usually as good as it gets (63k a year for max pension at my company), and you get up to 6 weeks holidays once you are a senior employee.
Dating/Marrying a railroader isn’t impossible, but you have to be prepared to be alone for long periods of time, and be woken up at strange hours by company calls to work.
If we’re going to be shallow, he doesn’t make what a doctor would make, however he does make enough to live comfortably. He also doesn’t work the hours a doctor works, doesn’t have to carry malpractice insurance, isn’t up to his ears in education debts, has a much less stressful job, and gets lots of vacation time. Once in a while he’ll have to work weekends if there’s some project that needs extra attention, but he always knows ahead of time. So, when you consider all of that, I think engineer trumps doctor for sure. Also, just thinking about all the engineers I know versus all the doctors I know, engineers are way sexier as a whole. All that stress doctors have to deal with does a number on their physical appearance!
Artist… eff that. I dated an artist once. NEVER AGAIN! Dating an artist means that you’ll never get to do anything fun because he can’t afford it, he’ll most likely always live with roommates, he’ll most likely have be doing some illegal substance or have a drinking problem, he’ll most likely be emotionally unstable and unreasonable. Anytime you want to go out to dinner at a nice restaurant… guess who’s paying. And he’ll most likely cheat on you.
Lawyers are another one I’ll never date. Cheating is a problem amongst all the people I’ve known who have dated lawyers. Also, they don’t make the money you think they do. Some have good paying jobs, but lawyers are no longer in demand like they once were. I know several people who are in law, and NONE of them make tons of cash. Most of them have to take on second jobs just to pay the law school loans because there are so many lawyers out there, and so few job openings for them. It’s just not the meal ticket that it once was.
Finally, military men (and women). Especially those in the marines. Although I love our troops, their working conditions suck for significant others. My cousin married a marine. The pay is crap for what he has to do, she’s always having to move to areas were she doesn’t know anyone, she’s never close to her family, she can’t work herself because she’d just have to find a new job every other year. Also she just had a baby, and her husband was deployed to Afghanistan like a month after he was born. Also abuse rates in the military are really high. At least the Air Force pays a little better.
My ex spouse is in the military. We were together for 4 and a half years and that is all I could take. He was so abusive mentally and physically, to myself and my older child from a previous marriage. We had our own child together at the start of the relationship that I raised mostly until he was 3 years old because his dad (my ex) worked full time in the military. When my children and I left my ex, he cut me off completely financially, hired a lawyer claiming that I kidnapped our son and WON custody of him. I had no money to pay for a lawyer because I stayed home to raise children.
Moral of this is: Ladies, please PLEASE do not marry a man just because he has a secure job, makes a decent living, promises to ‘take care’ of you… and maybe looks nice in his uniform. Take care of yourself first, have your own money secretly set aside (that no one else can access) and make sure you have the ability to properly support yourself on your own so that IF the relationship goes bad you are not screwed. If you happen to be in an abusive relationship with a man in the military or police, make sure you document absolutely everything very carefully and find a supportive program for abused women (that is not affiliated with the military in any way!). You will have a VERY difficult time getting the police and justice system to believe you and they will kick you to the curb and stomp all over you for as long as they can…. at least in BC, Canada anyways.
Marry the man you KNOW and love, and who loves you… that is the most important thing. make sure he treats you and your family with respect and don’t be too eager to get married and/or quit your job (or education).
🙂
To be blunt “It’s all about the Benjamins!”. Tell any “modern” woman that you’re a teacher and you will get a bunch of empty platitudes about how much they “respect” what you do as their eyes scan the room for the bankers and lawyers that this author attempts to argue that she would avoid. If you want proof of this, I suggest you either ask or observe the male teachers you know in comparison with the bankers/lawyers…which group is having more success with women?
Have you ever heard the phrase “They don’t ask how, they only ask how many”? If you add the phrase “successful” (translation rich and or soon to be) ahead of either novelist or musician, than you have done all of the analysis of those professions that any woman does.
The “Bigger Better Deal” in terms of looks, money, and/or social status is always going to be the reason that women pursue and or stay in relationships.
Best (?)
1. Teachers: Yes, summers, Christmas, and every other conceivable and inconceivable holiday off, leading to a militant sense of self entitlement and rapacious salary greed virtually unheard of, apart from every public service sector worker in Quebec or Greece, of course. Among the best paid (for the education) and cheapest human beings in the Western world.
2. Dentists: Previous studies showed dentists among the highest suicide rates, by profession. Is all that financial ‘security’ worth marrying someone stressed to the max knowing most of his patients dread going to see him?
3. Novelists: “…creative, expressive and passionate…he’s also sensitive and curious…” = moody to the point of driving you insane. “…and typically makes his own hours….” Yeah, because he’s got writer’s block and with each passing day of frittering away his time with you, your mortgage payment is getting closer and closer to default.
4. Engineers: Uh, when did engineers graduate from being anything other than horndogs and beer receptacles?
5. Psychiatrists: Ask any grad psych prof and they’ll tell you many psychiatrists knowingly or unwittingly go into the profession because they have serious, unanswered personal issues of their own.
Worst (?)
1. Bankers: “…obsessed with money…blah, blah….” Hmm, doesn’t sound like any bankers I’ve ever known. More like ‘good with people’ and ‘good managers’. And “…he will spend a lot of time away from you making more money….” Where? At his 9 to 4 job? Maybe investment bankers, but everyday bank managers, not so much.
2. Pediatricians: Any pediatrician bringing home that many diseases isn’t practicing even basic personal hygiene.
3. Lawyers: Oh dear–I have to agree. Not even a snarky comment on their assessment.
4. Musicians: Could also be a bit tricky, since the very traits that make them good musicians might also make them unreliable and moody [see Novelist]. Yes, most won’t make much money either, if that’s important to you.
5. Police/Firemen: Yes, dangerous, but have you looked at the average Canadian constable’s or firefighter’s T4 lately? Cripes–they make as much as teachers!
6. Bartenders: Can’t fault their description of bartenders either.
I’m dating a hot engineer and he works for tesla and owns many luxury cars. He looks like a movie star. He is fit and friendly. He makes great money and is humble.Engineering is a respected profession unlike corrupt bankers.You sound like a jilted banker. You fit the stereotype.
I was married to a dentist for 26 years. Dentists are known for interoffice affairs, as well as the high suicide rates. To say they won’t get called in on weekends is WRONG also…they do. And at 1,2 3 in the morning. Happily sleeping through the night, now, on whatever night of the week. His “office manager” can take those calls now.
Wow, Ihere I thought women were like men and married for love. Now I find out it was important for my wife and all you other ladies out there to make sure you marry into a secure, stable future. It seems that the person who wrote this article is a woman who thinks the best marriage is one where she can stay home and eat bon bons while her 1.25 children are in daycare. What about YOUR job? What should men be shopping for? Should a man make sure his woman is worth it before he asks for her hand? What about that dowry, I hope you are coming to the marriage with money and a good education. And since I am a man lets see those hips, child bearing? I like perky boobs and a nice tan so you better be ready to come up with some pre-marriage proof of perfection. Oh and most men like their women pure the day of the wedding. I will of course require a certificate from your doctor certifying….
Girl you are delusional
Bankers are the worst. I dated investment bankers and they are the most heartless cruelest liars on earth
I can see that many posters are looking for men with high paying jobs, great people skills and lots of free time to go out on dates and take care of the family/house. Well, marry a **** pharmacist. That is the best profession in the world, and I regret not having gone to pharmacy school.
Seriously, though. My father is a lawyer, and my mother a dentist. They both hate their professions. My mother was so exhausted from work that she developed major depression, and my family almost disintegrated.
Marry someone who is happy, and who loves you. If each of you make $40k a year, that is more than enough to live and raise a family. If you want more than that, you have issues. You want a yatch and a Lamborghini? Then look for an investment banker (the worst people on the face of this earth).
Just a thought on the lawyer argument, only a small percent actually go to trial. A lot are responsible for contracts and many jobs can be found that are 9-5…. lets hope bankruptcy is one of those 9-5 jobs.
I am dating an investment banker & can vouch for the time issues, as with lawyers. I maintain a full busy life myself, so being patient for him is not too much of an aggravation. My problem sometimes lays in him being able to keep his word with time…. 7PM for dinner turns into 10PM, for instance.
IT DOES NOT MATTER WHAT PROFESSION YOUR BOYFRIEND/HUSBAND/GIRLFRIEND/WIFE (LET’S NOT BE HETEROSEXIST) IS. YOU DON’T “DATE A PROFESSION”—YOU DATE A PERSON.
AND NOW THAT THE MAJORITY OF WOMEN WORK AND HAVE SUCCESSFUL CAREERS, WE SHOULD NOT BE CONCERNING OURSELVES WITH SUCH ANTIQUATED IDEAS OF MANHOOD AND MASCULNITY.
ARE THERE ANY “ARTICLES” GEARED TOWARDS MEN ABOUT ARE THE BEST “PROFESSIONS TO DATE”?
WHO’S WITH ME ON THIS????
On the plus side, you DO make good money, and once you have made your monthly miles, you can be off for up to a couple weeks at a time. The pension is usually as good as it gets (63k a year for max pension at my company), and you get up to 6 weeks holidays once you are a senior employee.
Dating/Marrying a railroader isn’t impossible, but you have to be prepared to be alone for long periods of time, and be woken up at strange hours by company calls to work.
If we’re going to be shallow, he doesn’t make what a doctor would make, however he does make enough to live comfortably. He also doesn’t work the hours a doctor works, doesn’t have to carry malpractice insurance, isn’t up to his ears in education debts, has a much less stressful job, and gets lots of vacation time. Once in a while he’ll have to work weekends if there’s some project that needs extra attention, but he always knows ahead of time. So, when you consider all of that, I think engineer trumps doctor for sure. Also, just thinking about all the engineers I know versus all the doctors I know, engineers are way sexier as a whole. All that stress doctors have to deal with does a number on their physical appearance!
Artist… eff that. I dated an artist once. NEVER AGAIN! Dating an artist means that you’ll never get to do anything fun because he can’t afford it, he’ll most likely always live with roommates, he’ll most likely have be doing some illegal substance or have a drinking problem, he’ll most likely be emotionally unstable and unreasonable. Anytime you want to go out to dinner at a nice restaurant… guess who’s paying. And he’ll most likely cheat on you.
Lawyers are another one I’ll never date. Cheating is a problem amongst all the people I’ve known who have dated lawyers. Also, they don’t make the money you think they do. Some have good paying jobs, but lawyers are no longer in demand like they once were. I know several people who are in law, and NONE of them make tons of cash. Most of them have to take on second jobs just to pay the law school loans because there are so many lawyers out there, and so few job openings for them. It’s just not the meal ticket that it once was.
Finally, military men (and women). Especially those in the marines. Although I love our troops, their working conditions suck for significant others. My cousin married a marine. The pay is crap for what he has to do, she’s always having to move to areas were she doesn’t know anyone, she’s never close to her family, she can’t work herself because she’d just have to find a new job every other year. Also she just had a baby, and her husband was deployed to Afghanistan like a month after he was born. Also abuse rates in the military are really high. At least the Air Force pays a little better.
My ex spouse is in the military. We were together for 4 and a half years and that is all I could take. He was so abusive mentally and physically, to myself and my older child from a previous marriage. We had our own child together at the start of the relationship that I raised mostly until he was 3 years old because his dad (my ex) worked full time in the military. When my children and I left my ex, he cut me off completely financially, hired a lawyer claiming that I kidnapped our son and WON custody of him. I had no money to pay for a lawyer because I stayed home to raise children.
Moral of this is: Ladies, please PLEASE do not marry a man just because he has a secure job, makes a decent living, promises to ‘take care’ of you… and maybe looks nice in his uniform. Take care of yourself first, have your own money secretly set aside (that no one else can access) and make sure you have the ability to properly support yourself on your own so that IF the relationship goes bad you are not screwed. If you happen to be in an abusive relationship with a man in the military or police, make sure you document absolutely everything very carefully and find a supportive program for abused women (that is not affiliated with the military in any way!). You will have a VERY difficult time getting the police and justice system to believe you and they will kick you to the curb and stomp all over you for as long as they can…. at least in BC, Canada anyways.
Marry the man you KNOW and love, and who loves you… that is the most important thing. make sure he treats you and your family with respect and don’t be too eager to get married and/or quit your job (or education).
🙂
To be blunt “It’s all about the Benjamins!”. Tell any “modern” woman that you’re a teacher and you will get a bunch of empty platitudes about how much they “respect” what you do as their eyes scan the room for the bankers and lawyers that this author attempts to argue that she would avoid. If you want proof of this, I suggest you either ask or observe the male teachers you know in comparison with the bankers/lawyers…which group is having more success with women?
Have you ever heard the phrase “They don’t ask how, they only ask how many”? If you add the phrase “successful” (translation rich and or soon to be) ahead of either novelist or musician, than you have done all of the analysis of those professions that any woman does.
The “Bigger Better Deal” in terms of looks, money, and/or social status is always going to be the reason that women pursue and or stay in relationships.
Best (?)
1. Teachers: Yes, summers, Christmas, and every other conceivable and inconceivable holiday off, leading to a militant sense of self entitlement and rapacious salary greed virtually unheard of, apart from every public service sector worker in Quebec or Greece, of course. Among the best paid (for the education) and cheapest human beings in the Western world.
2. Dentists: Previous studies showed dentists among the highest suicide rates, by profession. Is all that financial ‘security’ worth marrying someone stressed to the max knowing most of his patients dread going to see him?
3. Novelists: “…creative, expressive and passionate…he’s also sensitive and curious…” = moody to the point of driving you insane. “…and typically makes his own hours….” Yeah, because he’s got writer’s block and with each passing day of frittering away his time with you, your mortgage payment is getting closer and closer to default.
4. Engineers: Uh, when did engineers graduate from being anything other than horndogs and beer receptacles?
5. Psychiatrists: Ask any grad psych prof and they’ll tell you many psychiatrists knowingly or unwittingly go into the profession because they have serious, unanswered personal issues of their own.
Worst (?)
1. Bankers: “…obsessed with money…blah, blah….” Hmm, doesn’t sound like any bankers I’ve ever known. More like ‘good with people’ and ‘good managers’. And “…he will spend a lot of time away from you making more money….” Where? At his 9 to 4 job? Maybe investment bankers, but everyday bank managers, not so much.
2. Pediatricians: Any pediatrician bringing home that many diseases isn’t practicing even basic personal hygiene.
3. Lawyers: Oh dear–I have to agree. Not even a snarky comment on their assessment.
4. Musicians: Could also be a bit tricky, since the very traits that make them good musicians might also make them unreliable and moody [see Novelist]. Yes, most won’t make much money either, if that’s important to you.
5. Police/Firemen: Yes, dangerous, but have you looked at the average Canadian constable’s or firefighter’s T4 lately? Cripes–they make as much as teachers!
6. Bartenders: Can’t fault their description of bartenders either.
Wow, Ihere I thought women were like men and married for love. Now I find out it was important for my wife and all you other ladies out there to make sure you marry into a secure, stable future. It seems that the person who wrote this article is a woman who thinks the best marriage is one where she can stay home and eat bon bons while her 1.25 children are in daycare. What about YOUR job? What should men be shopping for? Should a man make sure his woman is worth it before he asks for her hand? What about that dowry, I hope you are coming to the marriage with money and a good education. And since I am a man lets see those hips, child bearing? I like perky boobs and a nice tan so you better be ready to come up with some pre-marriage proof of perfection. Oh and most men like their women pure the day of the wedding. I will of course require a certificate from your doctor certifying….
You, are a moron.
Engineers are geeks….To get into engineering you have to be near the top in math and science and the intensive training circumvents any possibility of social development during critical formative years. The work means extended periods of concentration excluding the possibility of a balanced lifestyle. Too often they get so involved in work for so long they forget they got married and later go on to another serial relationship.
Simply put…they don’t have the aptitude or the time for a mature balanced relationship…so it is doomed from the start.
I know…been there done that…and many peers have experienced similar circumstances.
That being said…An engineer willing to leave the lifestyle to devote time to a relationship long term can be an excellent intelligent partner.
There is also the ones who are in the A & M business. They make the big $’s, but on average they are committed to 80 to 100 hours of work a week. Any deal, any time of the day is what makes them live!
And finally, accountants. BORING, BORING, BORING!!! Those are my three additions, as I personally know many who have those “Live To Work” personas.
There IS more to life then ones work or profession.
Arrgghh…maybe I’m not even making sense??
Obviously you are misinformed about the education a Police Officer must have.
These days most Canadian police officers are university educated, and at the very
least, college educated. Their job involves much more than cruising around in a squad car. While there are many firemen who are well built, obviously you haven’t seen the
majority who are not. Please get your facts straight.
I am married to an Engineer who has 4 degrees in Engineering, I have never met a more giving individual.
the long hours, the stress, the drugs, the alcohol, the very appreciative waitresses. not to mention the artist mentality.
trust me, it’s a powder keg.
and novelist?
maybe if you’re bagging a successful, published author, with the literary world at his feet, good luck with that.
might as well go bohemian.
There are different types and kinds of lawyers, I am not the norm, that is for sure!
I have recently started to see an X that is now a retired cop. No we are not near 65, but he still does some cop things….like i say once a cop always a cop.
But he knows that after chasing my butt for over 5 yrs now and now I have agreed to “date” I have laid down the “law” and should he not make time for me or think I will be his second or third choice he will find my dust from leaving again and for good this time. He also knows I am not joking and i have a lot to offer him as he does me.
It takes two to make a relationship work, it should all just come naturally yes, but at the same time if you want it to seriously work then you need to work at it.
I do not suggest anyone waste their time with anyone that makes others a priority and you an option….kick that to the curb…NEXT.
you have one life to live, make sure you are happy and who cares what others think. I love my alone time as well, so it just depends are you bot a missing piece to your partners puzzle or just filling in a gap for a short time??
I am now with a guy who works in Law enforcement. And the specific job he has can sometimes call for him to work throughout the night, a couple of hours of sleep, and back to work. He does not have a set schedule as someone who is a patrol officer, which of course can also cause a long night, depending on what happens.
After a year of dating, which I will admit, was hard due to phone calls that I did not get on time, and I recall once we both took the day off from work, at the last minute, he was called out. For the entire day! (and this was my last vacation day I could take off from work) He did get home safely and that was much more important than losing my vacation day!
He always told me I was very patient with his work and appreciated that. After one year, we moved in together. Which of course helped alot. We have been together, 11 yrs in July. I do worry about him at work. I do not let the thoughts take over. A few times I have gotten “extra” worried.
With me being the way I am, not needy and love my time, our relationship has worked out great. I will say, I do not have any friends who can tolerate this schedule.
Im sure there are other females out there who can tolerate the rough times of not being able to follow through with plans, phone calls not on time, and the danger of the job.
Why are we not married after 10 yrs? We are engaged and we are happy. It is not his or my fault that we are not married, its something both of us have not planned out yet. We did have plans in motion, and my best friend lost her parents in that specific month. After this horrible situation we have not got back on track as far as plans.
You, are a moron.
Engineers are geeks….To get into engineering you have to be near the top in math and science and the intensive training circumvents any possibility of social development during critical formative years. The work means extended periods of concentration excluding the possibility of a balanced lifestyle. Too often they get so involved in work for so long they forget they got married and later go on to another serial relationship.
Simply put…they don’t have the aptitude or the time for a mature balanced relationship…so it is doomed from the start.
I know…been there done that…and many peers have experienced similar circumstances.
That being said…An engineer willing to leave the lifestyle to devote time to a relationship long term can be an excellent intelligent partner.
There is also the ones who are in the A & M business. They make the big $’s, but on average they are committed to 80 to 100 hours of work a week. Any deal, any time of the day is what makes them live!
And finally, accountants. BORING, BORING, BORING!!! Those are my three additions, as I personally know many who have those “Live To Work” personas.
There IS more to life then ones work or profession.
Arrgghh…maybe I’m not even making sense??
Obviously you are misinformed about the education a Police Officer must have.
These days most Canadian police officers are university educated, and at the very
least, college educated. Their job involves much more than cruising around in a squad car. While there are many firemen who are well built, obviously you haven’t seen the
majority who are not. Please get your facts straight.
I am married to an Engineer who has 4 degrees in Engineering, I have never met a more giving individual.
the long hours, the stress, the drugs, the alcohol, the very appreciative waitresses. not to mention the artist mentality.
trust me, it’s a powder keg.
and novelist?
maybe if you’re bagging a successful, published author, with the literary world at his feet, good luck with that.
might as well go bohemian.
There are different types and kinds of lawyers, I am not the norm, that is for sure!
I have recently started to see an X that is now a retired cop. No we are not near 65, but he still does some cop things….like i say once a cop always a cop.
But he knows that after chasing my butt for over 5 yrs now and now I have agreed to “date” I have laid down the “law” and should he not make time for me or think I will be his second or third choice he will find my dust from leaving again and for good this time. He also knows I am not joking and i have a lot to offer him as he does me.
It takes two to make a relationship work, it should all just come naturally yes, but at the same time if you want it to seriously work then you need to work at it.
I do not suggest anyone waste their time with anyone that makes others a priority and you an option….kick that to the curb…NEXT.
you have one life to live, make sure you are happy and who cares what others think. I love my alone time as well, so it just depends are you bot a missing piece to your partners puzzle or just filling in a gap for a short time??
I am now with a guy who works in Law enforcement. And the specific job he has can sometimes call for him to work throughout the night, a couple of hours of sleep, and back to work. He does not have a set schedule as someone who is a patrol officer, which of course can also cause a long night, depending on what happens.
After a year of dating, which I will admit, was hard due to phone calls that I did not get on time, and I recall once we both took the day off from work, at the last minute, he was called out. For the entire day! (and this was my last vacation day I could take off from work) He did get home safely and that was much more important than losing my vacation day!
He always told me I was very patient with his work and appreciated that. After one year, we moved in together. Which of course helped alot. We have been together, 11 yrs in July. I do worry about him at work. I do not let the thoughts take over. A few times I have gotten “extra” worried.
With me being the way I am, not needy and love my time, our relationship has worked out great. I will say, I do not have any friends who can tolerate this schedule.
Im sure there are other females out there who can tolerate the rough times of not being able to follow through with plans, phone calls not on time, and the danger of the job.
Why are we not married after 10 yrs? We are engaged and we are happy. It is not his or my fault that we are not married, its something both of us have not planned out yet. We did have plans in motion, and my best friend lost her parents in that specific month. After this horrible situation we have not got back on track as far as plans.