It seems like once you’ve passed that year-mark with a guy, everyone and their mother suddenly starts asking you when you’re going to tie the knot.
Of course, nosy parkers shouldn’t be deciding your future for you, but now the big question’s on your mind “ is a wedding in your future? Take a look at these signs that you’re ready for that big trip down the aisle:
You feel like you really know each other. Now is the time to make sure you’re A-ok with each others’ quirks, past relationship history, and any other skeletons in the closet. You should have spent enough time together to know what your day-to-day character is like, whether you’re on a romantic date or just vegging on the couch after work.
You’re more excited about the marriage than the wedding. You may have white dress fantasies, but that’s no reason to throw them away on what could potentially be the wrong guy. If thinking about the day after the I dos makes you feel just as giddy as thinking about flower arrangements, then you’re on the right track.
You’ve discussed the biggies. There are certain deal-breaker topics “ especially kids and religion “ that need to be worked out before you put marriage on the table. Be clear about what you expect on these subjects, and if your partner disagrees, don’t expect that to change after marriage.
You’re completely done-zo with your exes. If you have any lingering doubts or unfinished business with your past relationships, you’re not quite ready to move on to the future yet.
You can foot the bill. A lot of us expect certain big-ticket items out of a marriage, whether it’s a house or that special, extravagant day. If you can’t both work together to cover the costs right now, it may not be the time. And if you can, will it take any special saving or job changes to make it happen?
You’ve weathered a few bumps in the road. You don’t have to go through tragedy with a man to know whether he’s a solid guy, but how you cope with problems as a couple is an important indicator of how you’ll handle marriage. Make sure you’ve got a man who can fight fair and who values your opinions “ even if you drive each other crazy every once in a while.