You would think women might be better at it. For the most part, yes. But some slip. Here are some examples of those off-the-cuff remarks you should never make to another woman:
1) You look tired.
I don’t understand why anyone says this to anybody. It’s never going to make that person feel better. There is nothing that person can do about it except maybe sleep better the next night. And what if they really aren’t tired? What if they had a restful night and felt great when they left the house? You just pushed a pin into that self-confidence balloon.
2) I wish my breasts were smaller, like yours are.
Yeah, right. And maybe I like my small breasts just fine. Maybe I made friends with Ginger and MaryAnne a long time ago. Maybe I don’t need your pity.
3) Did you make this from scratch?
My shoulders sag immediately. No, I think, I took the easy way out. No, I mumble, I bought a mix, added an egg/dressing/sprinkles. No, I hear in my head, I wanted to watch my PVR’d TV movie starring Valerie Bertinelli rather than cook/bake/bother. No, I want to scream, I am just plain lazy.
4) Don’t you hate it when they still ask you for I.D. at the Lotto Max?
I was lucky this last remark happened on the web as I was speechless. In person, I might have had to guffaw, stumble and lie my way through a yeah, it really drives me crazy too. Online, I could just say: :).
This is the most dreadful (un)remark of all. It usually happens like this: Did you get a haircut? Yes.” (Nothing).” Look, it is okay if you don’t like my haircut. I can’t please everyone. But why make that so obvious by bringing it up in the first place? Dead air. Ouch. The cruelest remark of all.