Relationships are all about being open and honest. Or are they? There are just some things you should never, ever tell your boyfriend or husband”and your mother probably won’t tell you what they are. So we will “ here are the top five things you should never, under any circumstances, tell your man:
1. How many sexual partners you’ve had. Trust us, he does not need to know this information. Here’s why: if you’ve only had a few sexual partners, he might wonder if you’ll be tempted to stray later on in the relationship. If the number is too high”and who knows what that arbitrary number might be (no, don’t ask him!)”he might think you’re loose (to use a kind word). So just don’t tell him. If he asks, just smile mysteriously and answer something like Enough to know how fantastic you are!
2. Anything about your ex-boyfriend or ex-husband. If he asks for details, say as little as possible. Never volunteer any information about an ex”it can only lead to feelings of inadequacy, suspicion, and a host of other feelings, none of them good. Don’t talk about where your ex worked, the restaurants he liked to go to”even his name, if you can help it. Keep the past in the past.
3. How hot his best friend, brother or (God forbid!) dad is. Unless you’ve got the hots for a celebrity that you’ll never meet in real life, keep your crushes a secret. Otherwise, he’ll become suspicious of anything you say or do around the person”and it’s not fair to either of you to cause that kind of havoc in your relationship. As far as your man is concerned, he’s the hottest guy you know.
4. Anything negative about his sexual prowess. This goes for size, technique or endurance. It will haunt you forever. Do not criticize his manhood in any way”he’ll never forget it, even if he never brings it up again.
5. That you feel like you settled for him. Hopefully you would never mention this to your boyfriend or husband, but during a fight, you could be tempted to blurt this out. Don’t. Even if it’s not true, it will lead, eventually, to the disintegration of your relationship. And if it is true, maybe you need to think about finding someone you’re really into. But in the meantime, you don’t need to communicate this hurtful information. You’re better than that!
These articles are very silly. Before marriage I was never asked once for numbers. Do you think a man is going to run across a bar to someone who looks like a Victoria Secret model and concern themselves with a number? No they don’t. Suddenly the rules change. Women need to understand this. What a man wants most is a beautiful women, a desirable woman and that’s about it. He’s not going to blow it with stupid questions. What they really do is imagine an engagement ring and any absurd questions that would threaten a relationship that they value are avoided. In the real world, not these hyped up sites, men prefer money and career, a college degree, and then quite a few percentage concern themselves with someone who’s got half a brain in their head. They don’t want girlish attitudes. Depending on your IQ here is what you say if asked: If he’s a millionaire your answer is none. You’ve remained a virgin. If he’s a six figure income your number is one. If he’s the local plumber, ignore the question, so he can move onto the next date. C’mon. If someone asks for a number, who cares. So what. Women are here to enjoy sex — not to live up to someone’s judgements and standards. Is sex wrong? I think not. Besides I think the number question determines how stupid and careless a man is and so if a man asks, women should use that to go ahead and weed him out of the picture. Hes a boy not a man. Weed him out. As far as ex boyfriends, especially rich and successful ones, women should feel free to bring them up in heated debates if necessary. For God’s sake ladies, please do. Everyone has them right? Isn’t honesty the objective, or is omission? Its too confusing for me, so lets just stick to honesty. I think its good to let them know – he’s not the only man in town if things get ugly. How hot someone is? Are we dead or just blind? I guess we’re both, but its a bit inconsiderate so I’ll give a little concession on number three. As for sex, if it isn’t working for you its probably not for him either so things should be communicated, but hey, this is just all common sense really. As far as settling, that sounds like a term single women use, and when they collect together in a group, it can be frightening. Its even worse than a high number. At least women with high numbers had great sex but women who settle are bitter and narcissistic. Maybe if they feel that way they should take a look in the mirror. To hide the fact that they don’t really love the person they’re with is not an omission its the elephant in the room. Stick to honesty, real men – and real women who care about eachother can handle it. Here here, I throw my gavel on the desk.
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2. When the man is real, she won’t bother telling him about her ex .. but eventually she will tell him she feels lucky to have found the one that topped them all by far. Watch out though .. young woman, don’t say that if you don’t mean it, cause the real man knows when she is not being honest. The real man will move on if that happens, for two reason 1) she is not appreciating him 2) he can’t give her what she needs, regardless of the reason
3.The confident men does not care about such silly things … it is very likely the confident men will have a confident father and or brother and friends. True, there is no need to say such things but if you do, you will know quickly if your man is a real man or a chicken with a fake fox fur
4. the confident man knows how to love a woman .. if despite that she has to make such comment, he will move on without making a blip … no reason to waste time and love with someone who can’t appreciate or someone who is out of his league, the confident man knows himself know his skills and knows his limits and sticks to what he does best. Note: the confident man won’t have this kind of problem, if this happens anyway, it is a call for help, typically he will first ask her delicately to find out what is that she is really trying to say. If that goes no where, them yes, the confident man will move on to greener pastures;-)
5. does not happen to the confident man … Now, here me out here .. not to the over confident man … there is huge difference. A confident man has personality .. the overconfident is actually a scared chicken .. If the man is a real one, she won’t even think about it, she will just meet him at a level of intimacy that does not leave time for purposeless talk
GARBAGE… What planet are you from? ARe you 12? Ive never read such ridiculous drivol in all my life… please… do not attempt to educate anyone with that level of ignorance.
1. Terrible advice, if I ask a girl how many sexual partners she has had and she gives me a vague answer I assume the worst, in fact I assume that she probably had done some porn in her past and stripping. This is just human nature, when people give you vague answers to touchy questions, you assume the worst and it tends to be true. Ie. Hey baby did you sleep with that guy last night… your fantastic. O, well everythiing is all better now!!!, yea sure what world do you live in lady. i’d dump a girl like that because it shows a pattern of vague answering and decietfulness. If I am dating a girl I am suppose to be her closest friend yet she hides information from me, I call BS.
2. More terrible advice, this is like a guide on running a way a man. If I found out my GF was hiding information like that from me, it would only make me more suspicious of her. What is so bad that she must hide it. Its one thing to not volunteer actively hiding information is just pushing a man away.
3, Men can already tell who you are attracted, we watch you when you think we aren’t, women have wondering eyes. Denying something we know to be true will only make us more suspicious of you, when you are in a situation that your credibility might matter. Ie. you go to my house and are eye humping my brother, but deny liking him. Then we go to a bar and some guy hits on you, but you shoot him down. We will not give you the benefit of the doubt, because you lied before (about my brother) why should I believe you now?
4. Never been in that situation but if I sucked i’d rather someone tell me so I could fix it then keep screwing up.
5. That you feel like you “settled†for him. Hopefully you would never mention this to your boyfriend or husband, but during a fight, you could be tempted to blurt this out. Don’t. Even if it’s not true, it will lead, eventually, to the disintegration of your relationship. And if it is true, maybe you need to think about finding someone you’re really into. But in the meantime, you don’t need to communicate this hurtful information. You’re better than that!
5. Well you have to watch the settle card. It can go both ways, he may think he settled for you, you may not be all that. And ime, women tend to rate themselves about 3-4 points higher than men do. It may be better you tell him you settled and just end the relationship there. No one wants to be in a relationship that is just “settlement”. If you think you can do better, go find that dream man, but beware that your dream man probably has his pick of women and no interest in settling on YOU. When it comes to the dating game, men approach women 95% of the time. There is no guarantee a better man will ever approach you than the one you have, and he may not be interested in you.
Never tell your man, under any circumstances, how many sexual partners you’ve had ? Sure, what could possibly go wrong ? How about EVERYTHING. The unnecessary deceit which the author is sanctioning reflects a view based on her own past moral choices; one that is self-centred and dangerously short-sighted.
Condescendingly stroking his ego while side-stepping the question ? Oh, yes, he’ll be satisfied with that. What ill-considered advice !
Not only did I not take his feelings into consideration, but lost the chance at having what could have been the most rewarding and loving relationship of my life.
Everyone deserves total honesty and deserves to know who it is they’ve chosen to spend their life with. To lie in order to get “what you want” not only deprives your spouse the right to make an informed decision, but it also will wedge a huge rift in your relationship, one that may never mend. If you choose to take this advice, I hope your expectations at happiness are very low.
Inevitably, the lies are found out, usually after many more lies designed to hide the truth. By then all trust and respect is gone. These rationalizations to excuse dishonesty in a healthy relationship are self-serving and pathetic.
If the guy asks the past, then he has chosen to face the fact he may not like the answers.
Women who hide information are slu*ty, that’s why they have to hide the information. If they made quality selection, stayed consistent and true to themselves, and were truly honest to their bfs and to themselves, then they would have nothing to hide. Because they wouldn’t have slept with 10 guys (quality women don’t need to sleep with more than 5), wouldn’t have posted up porn vids with 3 guys, give weekly bjs for hours with 3 others, cheated on 2, and just had plain sex with the rest, etc.
Guys want women who are HONEST. If your man can’t have sex all day like your ex, that is something HE needs to face. If he asked it, then he needs to face he may not like what he hears. If you were a complete sl*t before and are ashamed of it, YOU SHOULD’VE THOUGHT OF THAT BEFORE.
When we decide to marry you, we want to marry ALL of you, not just a part of you. There is nothing wrong with kinky sex with a loved one. So why can’t you be honest about what you did or didn’t do?? By conveniently leaving out information, you are practically lying. Kinda like…”oops I cheated on you”…
Let the MAN decide what he wants and who he wants to be with. It’s YOUR own fault for being a sl*t in the past. If he accepts your past then great for you, if not, FIND SOMEONE ELSE. How would you feel if he was a playa before and conveniently decided not to tell you, even if he’s absolutely changed his ways??
You must realize maybe he’ll like the other side of you. Some guys do want a freaky girl, so again, STOP MAKING DECISIONS for him. E.g. You never know, maybe he never initiated public sex cause he wasn’t into it, or maybe he thought you weren’t. And now that it’s out there, he’d be down for it.
This magazine sh*t being preached is the reason for so many relationship difficulties and complexities.
Just be honest, is that so hard??
2. When the man is real, she won’t bother telling him about her ex .. but eventually she will tell him she feels lucky to have found the one that topped them all by far. Watch out though .. young woman, don’t say that if you don’t mean it, cause the real man knows when she is not being honest. The real man will move on if that happens, for two reason 1) she is not appreciating him 2) he can’t give her what she needs, regardless of the reason
3.The confident men does not care about such silly things … it is very likely the confident men will have a confident father and or brother and friends. True, there is no need to say such things but if you do, you will know quickly if your man is a real man or a chicken with a fake fox fur
4. the confident man knows how to love a woman .. if despite that she has to make such comment, he will move on without making a blip … no reason to waste time and love with someone who can’t appreciate or someone who is out of his league, the confident man knows himself know his skills and knows his limits and sticks to what he does best. Note: the confident man won’t have this kind of problem, if this happens anyway, it is a call for help, typically he will first ask her delicately to find out what is that she is really trying to say. If that goes no where, them yes, the confident man will move on to greener pastures;-)
5. does not happen to the confident man … Now, here me out here .. not to the over confident man … there is huge difference. A confident man has personality .. the overconfident is actually a scared chicken .. If the man is a real one, she won’t even think about it, she will just meet him at a level of intimacy that does not leave time for purposeless talk
1. Terrible advice, if I ask a girl how many sexual partners she has had and she gives me a vague answer I assume the worst, in fact I assume that she probably had done some porn in her past and stripping. This is just human nature, when people give you vague answers to touchy questions, you assume the worst and it tends to be true. Ie. Hey baby did you sleep with that guy last night… your fantastic. O, well everythiing is all better now!!!, yea sure what world do you live in lady. i’d dump a girl like that because it shows a pattern of vague answering and decietfulness. If I am dating a girl I am suppose to be her closest friend yet she hides information from me, I call BS.
2. More terrible advice, this is like a guide on running a way a man. If I found out my GF was hiding information like that from me, it would only make me more suspicious of her. What is so bad that she must hide it. Its one thing to not volunteer actively hiding information is just pushing a man away.
3, Men can already tell who you are attracted, we watch you when you think we aren’t, women have wondering eyes. Denying something we know to be true will only make us more suspicious of you, when you are in a situation that your credibility might matter. Ie. you go to my house and are eye humping my brother, but deny liking him. Then we go to a bar and some guy hits on you, but you shoot him down. We will not give you the benefit of the doubt, because you lied before (about my brother) why should I believe you now?
4. Never been in that situation but if I sucked i’d rather someone tell me so I could fix it then keep screwing up.
5. That you feel like you “settled†for him. Hopefully you would never mention this to your boyfriend or husband, but during a fight, you could be tempted to blurt this out. Don’t. Even if it’s not true, it will lead, eventually, to the disintegration of your relationship. And if it is true, maybe you need to think about finding someone you’re really into. But in the meantime, you don’t need to communicate this hurtful information. You’re better than that!
5. Well you have to watch the settle card. It can go both ways, he may think he settled for you, you may not be all that. And ime, women tend to rate themselves about 3-4 points higher than men do. It may be better you tell him you settled and just end the relationship there. No one wants to be in a relationship that is just “settlement”. If you think you can do better, go find that dream man, but beware that your dream man probably has his pick of women and no interest in settling on YOU. When it comes to the dating game, men approach women 95% of the time. There is no guarantee a better man will ever approach you than the one you have, and he may not be interested in you.
Never tell your man, under any circumstances, how many sexual partners you’ve had ? Sure, what could possibly go wrong ? How about EVERYTHING. The unnecessary deceit which the author is sanctioning reflects a view based on her own past moral choices; one that is self-centred and dangerously short-sighted.
Condescendingly stroking his ego while side-stepping the question ? Oh, yes, he’ll be satisfied with that. What ill-considered advice !
Not only did I not take his feelings into consideration, but lost the chance at having what could have been the most rewarding and loving relationship of my life.
Everyone deserves total honesty and deserves to know who it is they’ve chosen to spend their life with. To lie in order to get “what you want” not only deprives your spouse the right to make an informed decision, but it also will wedge a huge rift in your relationship, one that may never mend. If you choose to take this advice, I hope your expectations at happiness are very low.
Inevitably, the lies are found out, usually after many more lies designed to hide the truth. By then all trust and respect is gone. These rationalizations to excuse dishonesty in a healthy relationship are self-serving and pathetic.
If the guy asks the past, then he has chosen to face the fact he may not like the answers.
Women who hide information are slu*ty, that’s why they have to hide the information. If they made quality selection, stayed consistent and true to themselves, and were truly honest to their bfs and to themselves, then they would have nothing to hide. Because they wouldn’t have slept with 10 guys (quality women don’t need to sleep with more than 5), wouldn’t have posted up porn vids with 3 guys, give weekly bjs for hours with 3 others, cheated on 2, and just had plain sex with the rest, etc.
Guys want women who are HONEST. If your man can’t have sex all day like your ex, that is something HE needs to face. If he asked it, then he needs to face he may not like what he hears. If you were a complete sl*t before and are ashamed of it, YOU SHOULD’VE THOUGHT OF THAT BEFORE.
When we decide to marry you, we want to marry ALL of you, not just a part of you. There is nothing wrong with kinky sex with a loved one. So why can’t you be honest about what you did or didn’t do?? By conveniently leaving out information, you are practically lying. Kinda like…”oops I cheated on you”…
Let the MAN decide what he wants and who he wants to be with. It’s YOUR own fault for being a sl*t in the past. If he accepts your past then great for you, if not, FIND SOMEONE ELSE. How would you feel if he was a playa before and conveniently decided not to tell you, even if he’s absolutely changed his ways??
You must realize maybe he’ll like the other side of you. Some guys do want a freaky girl, so again, STOP MAKING DECISIONS for him. E.g. You never know, maybe he never initiated public sex cause he wasn’t into it, or maybe he thought you weren’t. And now that it’s out there, he’d be down for it.
This magazine sh*t being preached is the reason for so many relationship difficulties and complexities.
Just be honest, is that so hard??
love you guy xo
love you guy xo
But this is driving me crazy. If he doesnt stop bringing up my past, I may leave. It will kill me cause I love him so so much and we have a beautiful thing, but its hard to take this crap. How can I get him to stop it? If someone can help me, I would be forever grateful to you!!!
Thank you!!
Mary
love you guy xo
love you guy xo
But this is driving me crazy. If he doesnt stop bringing up my past, I may leave. It will kill me cause I love him so so much and we have a beautiful thing, but its hard to take this crap. How can I get him to stop it? If someone can help me, I would be forever grateful to you!!!
Thank you!!
Mary
We’re more self conscience then you think.
As for sexual issues…. I believe that if there is a elephant in the room, it’s there and there is no hiding it by not talking about it. My man loves to hear what I like and I usually start with that, if there is something I want him to work on.
My boyfriends marriage ended, (2 yrs before I met him) and he had slept with only two women since then. He told me up front there would be endurance issues. So I told him it shouldn’t be a problem since I hadn’t been with anyone for quite some time either. We don’t have any ego related issues, so discussing it was easy. So was the cure. I slapped his behind and said, “lets go work on that endurance”. Sex more often, leads to more pleasure, more often. Lies, when found out, only leads to the end of what could have been. Hurting someone, always blows up in your face.
<~A~>
The key isn’t NOT talking about these things, it’s HOW you talk about these things.
say that abviously, Candice doesn’t know much about men.
Vince
We’re more self conscience then you think.
As for sexual issues…. I believe that if there is a elephant in the room, it’s there and there is no hiding it by not talking about it. My man loves to hear what I like and I usually start with that, if there is something I want him to work on.
My boyfriends marriage ended, (2 yrs before I met him) and he had slept with only two women since then. He told me up front there would be endurance issues. So I told him it shouldn’t be a problem since I hadn’t been with anyone for quite some time either. We don’t have any ego related issues, so discussing it was easy. So was the cure. I slapped his behind and said, “lets go work on that endurance”. Sex more often, leads to more pleasure, more often. Lies, when found out, only leads to the end of what could have been. Hurting someone, always blows up in your face.
<~A~>
The key isn’t NOT talking about these things, it’s HOW you talk about these things.
say that abviously, Candice doesn’t know much about men.
Vince