You know, there are a million fish in the sea. And yet, you can’t stop thinking about the one that swam away after the fight where you told him you never wanted to see him again and you threw away all of his muscle shirts in a fit of anger.
Now, that fish has swam right back into your life, and you’re thinking about giving him another chance. But before you take the bait and I abandon this unraveling metaphor, I need you to think about a few things:
Did you break up recently?
If it was less than a month ago, most of your friends probably don’t even know you’ve broken up, so he’s not even your ex yet. Go ahead and give him another chance, but maybe keep it a secret. Also, keep in mind that the passage of just a few days without you may not have given him enough time to reflect on his shortcomings and adjust his behaviors to fit your expectations.
Have you thought about why it didn’t work?
I mean besides the fact that he was a jerk. Take some time to think about what about your relationship didn’t work, both on his side and yours.
Have you thought about what did work?
A breakup doesn’t mean that the relationship was all for naught. Give your relationship credit for what it gave you, and take notes. Your future boyfriends and husband will thank you. Not really, but it does make a difference.
Can you let things go?
Because building a new relationship on fights you’ve fought before will get old fast.
Is there anyone else you can date?
Anyone at all? Have you been on Match.com? Dated all your co-workers? Had your mother fix you up with her friend’s-friend’s son’s best friend? Trolled through Facebook profiles? Put an ad on Craigslist? Nearly all of these may be better ideas than dating your ex boyfriend.
What’s your stance on dating an ex?