Couple and relationship therapists have long said the key to a great, stable relationship is that both people need to maintain a healthy amount of independence. Not always easy to do when in the throes of a new romance, but here are some tips on how to stay independent:
1. Don’t forget about you
Remember who you are, especially your likes, dislikes and hobbies so you can keep them up when you are in a relationship. Yes, common ground and interests are important with your significant other. Equally important though, are the things that make you, you.
2. Get Away
A short trip every once in a while with friends or family will give you a bit of a relationship break. Nothing like a few days to help with perspective and when you get back, you’ll feel refreshed.
3. Keep your friendships up
Often the first area to go when a new relationship starts to heat up. At some point, you’ll need your friends to vent with or to laugh with so try to keep up regularly with them. Arrange a night once or twice a month and stick to it. You’ll end up having a different kind of fun.
4. Follow your dreams
Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean your goals come second. Don’t forget what you want to accomplish in life and avoid continually putting another person’s needs/attention before your own.