There comes a time in every lady’s life when she may find herself with multiple prospects at once. When it rains, it pours. There’s not a whole heck of a lot you can do about men being interested in you – what you can control is the way you go about it. Here’s how to date multiple men and keep it ladylike.
1. Be respectful.
That means don’t lead people on if you know they’re looking for something serious or something you can’t otherwise offer them at this time. Treating your partners as disposable dating toys will result in them getting hurt and you can pretty much bank on getting a bad rap among his friends, at least.
2. Be honest.
You don’t need to “clear it” or “ask permission” of every guy you’re seeing. After all, they may be seeing other people too. But as soon as someone asks you if you’re seeing someone else in any way, don’t lie. This will not only make things more difficult for you, but it takes the fun out of dating when you have to put on an act.
3. Don’t do it for the wrong reasons.
Don’t keep more partners around than necessary just because it makes you feel good about yourself. They’ll get frustrated, probably split, and you’ll end up feeling worse. If you’re dating more than one person because you are genuinely interested in all of them and are looking to narrow it down to find the right one the long haul, that’s totally fine. Just don’t keep anyone hanging on for too long.
4. Make a plan.
Don’t date aimlessly. Keep your “eye on the prize” and keep your dates productive. Come up with a plan and write it down if that helps you. Put an expiry date on each partner. If the chemistry ain’t popping by date 3, let him go. It’s only fair.
5. Don’t bite off more than you can chew.
If you’re juggling too many partners to be present and enjoy each and every single date, don’t quit one of your jobs, quit a partner. Make sure you’re not spreading yourself too thin. If you’re really into these partners, you owe it to them to give each of them the right amount of attention.
6. Be safe.
This goes for any and all dating situations. When it comes to sex, do it like you mean it. That means, do it only when you’re in complete control of your actions and totally ready to hit the sack for the right reasons (see # 3). Protect your and your partners’ sexual health: wrap it up.
Aside from that, have fun, be yourself, and be careful not to send Rob’s text to James’s number. You go, girl.