Breaking up is hard to do. Songs have been written about it. Books have been dedicated to it and movie plots have been based on relationships gone right, then wrong. But there reaches a point in some relationships when the decision needs to be made to jump ship and swim forward even though said ship holds the illusion of safety.
So, how do you know when it’s time?
Contact:
Basically it’s wanted. Remember in the beginning when you couldn’t speak to your significant other enough? If those days are nothing but a distant memory and you’re finding yourself avoiding communication or making up excuses why it’s not a good time, it may mean it’s a good idea to consider moving on.
Effort:
This is a biggie. If you aren’t up for the challenge of surprising the person you’re involved with and the thought of planning a special night together sets your eyes rolling, you may have lost the passion and desire to stay together.
Tomorrow:
A big part of being in a good relationship involves knowing there’s a future for you both. But when neither brings up the future or makes plans of things to do together, one or both may be remaining noncommittal to keep options open and avoid being tied down.
Fighting:
Fighting is healthy. And can be good fun when played out fairly, but when the fighting has moved to dirty territory and there’s name calling involved or you intentionally go after the person’s weak spots, consider if there’s much point in being with someone you aren’t much of a fan of.
Alone time:
When you’re together with your friends, do you reminisce about singledom and can’t understand why your all your girlfriends want to be in a relationship? Or do you complain about your significant other and focus on what bugs you instead of how happy you are together?
The Spark:
The affection is gone and well, it doesn’t look like anyone is going to light that powder keg again. Do you really want to dedicate your energy to staying in something that’s lost its loving feeling? After that, it’s easy to fall into a rut and settle.
