There are many common argument triggers that cause couples to fight, many of them centered around certain rooms in the house, and I don’t mean the bedroom. The kitchen, the bathroom, and any room where a television remote can be found are the main culprits. For ways to get over some common argument triggers, see below.
Socks on the floor or other laundry issues. Some guys are terrific about doing laundry, but many are not. They leave socks, underwear, wet towels, whatever, everywhere. You can only pick up so many dirty items of laundry before an argument erupts. How to get over this common argument trigger? Try putting laundry baskets or hampers in every room. Or, if you can stand it, stop picking up after him (he’ll eventually run out of underwear.)
Toilet seat up. The age old argument trigger! Along with stubble, fingernail clippings, or toothpaste in the sink. Not replacing toilet paper, or leaving the cap off the toothpaste are other oldies but goodies that always lead to a fight. How to get over this common argument trigger? Talk about it. He may not even know he’s doing it. If the behavior continues, try leaving a large sign (PUT THIS SEAT DOWN.) And accept that some guys just can’t change their habits “ is it really worth an argument?
Money. Money is another huge common argument trigger for couples. Whether it’s who is spending how much, reckless spending, not enough spending, or unequal paychecks, money is often at the root of an argument. How to get over it? If spending habits are to blame, develop a budget. Unequal paychecks can be touchier “ if he has a problem with you earning more, talk it out. But don’t let this one fester.
The TV remote. Most women watch television shows “ whether it’s a favorite news channel, CSI, Desperate Housewives, whatever. Men don’t really watch anything. They just flick, flick, flick the channels. They watch multiple shows on multiple channels, which is surprising considering most studies say that men are terrible at multitasking. Get over this common argument trigger by discussing ahead of time what the two of you are going to watch when. But leave him time to channel surf, as for some reason guys just really love to do this.
Taking out the trash. As well as dirty dishes left around the house “ plates on the coffee table, coffee cups in the bathroom. Or the inability to place a dirty dish in the dishwasher. Like most of the other common argument triggers, first try talking this common argument trigger out. These could be habits he’s not even aware of. Then give him time “ habits don’t change overnight. If all else fails, just accept it “ if you have to take out your own trash it’s not the end of the world.
PMS. Sorry, ladies, but it’s true. Things you are normally even tempered about seem to morph into your guy’s evil plot to destroy your world and make you insane. That deadly week of PMS can turn you from your sweet self into a woman ready to do battle at the slightest provocation (e.g. the toilet seat up, socks on the floor, blah, blah.) How to get over this common argument trigger? Realize when PMS might be taking control of your sanity and causing an argument, and take yourself out for a pedicure instead.
Drinking with his buddies. Whether you’re feeling neglected or just old-fashioned jealousy, a guy who regularly goes out drinking with his buddies will eventually trigger a fight with his girlfriend about it. Getting over this common argument trigger will require communication “ tell him what your problem is. Then figure out a way to handle it “ if you are feeling jealous over his time with the guys, realize he needs time with his friends. If you are feeling neglected, ask him to schedule more time with you.