Why It’s Okay to Meet Your Boyfriend Online

So you’ve got a new boyfriend. It’s so serious that you’re willing to go Facebook Official. He’s cute. He laughs at your jokes and hangs out with your crazy friends like a good sport. He’s basically a Taylor Swift song with a happy ending. And yet you find yourself faltering when people ask how you met, struggling to explain that you first laid eyes on him in the comfort of your own bed, that the glow of your laptop revealed a glimmer in his eye you could not ignore, that his favorite quotes weren’t too annoying and he met your height and location requirements.

I just want to let you know that no matter what your aunt says, it’s just fine that you met him on the internet. Don’t believe me? Then you need to listen up to this pep talk:

It’s not embarrassing!
Accidentally mistaking someone for a meth dealer is embarrassing. Dropping a pair of dirty panties out of your purse in front of someone is embarrassing. Pooping your pants on public transportation is embarrassing. Meeting your potential life partner at a place where people can get an MBA, purchase a case of champagne or find their long-lost twin sister is NOT embarrassing. It’s incredible! You found your needle in the most crowded haystack ever known. In your FACE, girl-who-met-her-husband-in-ninth-grade! You only picked from a pool of like, 200!

The internet is actually offended that you are embarrassed by how you met, and will no longer serve you tasty videos of kittens riding on turtles. Are you happy now? Fine, tell people you met at a coffee shop.

Everyone is doing it!
Seriously, didn’t you see about ten guys you went to grammar school with when you were browsing through profiles? Didn’t you start to see a flash of recognition in the eyes of strange men on the streets, as they recognized you as CatPalace82 (not a profile name this author has used. Yes, it is) recognize strangers on the street as guys you had rejected just a few days earlier? Don’t you watch the television commercials that tell you that 105% of relationships start online? Do you think that statistics have ever lied to us? They haven’t.

It doesn’t matter anyway!
Too much is made of a relationship’s origin story of a relationship. How you met is hardly important, so making up a fancy story about how you met while walking your dogs through a park that just happens to be equidistant from your apartments is just a waste of your precious time. Anyone who looks at you funny for finding your dude on the Internet clearly doesn’t understand that online dating is the same as shopping online for shoes. Does anyone judge you when you say oh I knew I was looking for a mid-heel in patent leather that would go with everything, so I just went online and ordered. Of course not! They applaud you for knowing what you wanted and efficiently facilitating.

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Tags: Facebook, internet, laptop, new boyfriend, online dating, relationship.

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  1. Avatar
    • Anonymous
    • January 1, 1970
    Reply
    I met my first “proper” boyfriend online and was always uneasy about what people thought and played down the fact that we met online. I regret that. I wish we were still together today.
  2. Avatar
    • Anonymous
    • January 1, 1970
    Reply
    this just made my day! i’ve been soo scared of what ppl will think…i met my now bf two years ago online…it was by complete mistake…we haven’t met soon but plan on it, thanks again for posting this!
  3. Avatar
    • Anonymous
    • January 1, 1970
    Reply
    Excellent article!! I’m 31 years old & I met someone (around my age) online, next year will be 10 years since the 1rst time he wrote me an email & new friendship started. Although we haven’t met on person I think of him like some of my friends I’ve met offline, also does he. Says I’m a very special friend for him & has been talking about me with his family since back then. I think I like him & I think he likes me back. I have no idea if I’ll ever meet him personally though. Few weeks ago he said that wants my home number to call on Christmas. Right now the only thing I can be sure is that even if I ever meet him face to face & friendship stays online he still will keep being a good friend.
  4. Avatar
    • Anonymous
    • January 1, 1970
    Reply
    I met my wife on-line and am not ashamed to admit it to anyone. Eight years together, and two children later, what could we possibly have to be ashamed about? We are, in fact, more in love now than we have ever been. Don’t knock it until you have tried it.
  5. Avatar
    • Anonymous
    • January 1, 1970
    Reply
    <3
  6. Avatar
    • Anonymous
    • January 1, 1970
    Reply
    Hilarious. And correct. And I say that as someone who met her husband while wandering barefoot in India when a genuine, enlightened Sadhu levitating three feet off the ground invited seven travelers to a holy full moon ceremony in a ruined temple above the Ganges where six monkeys danced and a tiger lurked in the jungle and then we fell in love.
    At least, that’s how I remember it.
  7. Avatar
    • Anonymous
    • January 1, 1970
    Reply
    Nora I love your writing! I’m a big fan!
  8. Avatar
    • Anonymous
    • January 1, 1970
    Reply
    I met my first “proper” boyfriend online and was always uneasy about what people thought and played down the fact that we met online. I regret that. I wish we were still together today.
  9. Avatar
    • Anonymous
    • January 1, 1970
    Reply
    this just made my day! i’ve been soo scared of what ppl will think…i met my now bf two years ago online…it was by complete mistake…we haven’t met soon but plan on it, thanks again for posting this!
  10. Avatar
    • Anonymous
    • January 1, 1970
    Reply
    Excellent article!! I’m 31 years old & I met someone (around my age) online, next year will be 10 years since the 1rst time he wrote me an email & new friendship started. Although we haven’t met on person I think of him like some of my friends I’ve met offline, also does he. Says I’m a very special friend for him & has been talking about me with his family since back then. I think I like him & I think he likes me back. I have no idea if I’ll ever meet him personally though. Few weeks ago he said that wants my home number to call on Christmas. Right now the only thing I can be sure is that even if I ever meet him face to face & friendship stays online he still will keep being a good friend.
  11. Avatar
    • Anonymous
    • January 1, 1970
    Reply
    I met my wife on-line and am not ashamed to admit it to anyone. Eight years together, and two children later, what could we possibly have to be ashamed about? We are, in fact, more in love now than we have ever been. Don’t knock it until you have tried it.
  12. Avatar
    • Anonymous
    • January 1, 1970
    Reply
    <3
  13. Avatar
    • Anonymous
    • January 1, 1970
    Reply
    Hilarious. And correct. And I say that as someone who met her husband while wandering barefoot in India when a genuine, enlightened Sadhu levitating three feet off the ground invited seven travelers to a holy full moon ceremony in a ruined temple above the Ganges where six monkeys danced and a tiger lurked in the jungle and then we fell in love.
    At least, that’s how I remember it.
  14. Avatar
    • Anonymous
    • January 1, 1970
    Reply
    Nora I love your writing! I’m a big fan!

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