We have seen it before: A married man cheats on his wife, leads on the other woman promising her that he will leave his wife, never leaves his wife and the other woman is left broken hearted and revengeful, ultimately telling his wife. This scenario is easy to recognize from the outside in, but when you are the other woman, hope that you’ll be the exception is often what keeps you from walking away.
How did you become the other woman?
He was charming, sweet and made you feel special. He told you that he was having problems at home and was thinking of separating from his wife. You believed him. The trust that he is going to leave her for you is what got you here. But, how can you trust someone who is lying to the person they made vows with?
He is so into you, the fact that you are different from her, your sex life is exciting because you are always hiding and you have so much fun together. These things boost your ego, allowing you to forget that you are not the person he sleeps next to at night, the person he sits down for dinner with every evening and wakes up to in the morning. You smile, because you don’t want to upset him, but inside you feel empty and guilty.
How to become THE woman!
Leave him. You will never be number one and the minute you realize it and walk away, that is the instant you get your freedom and confidence back.
When you’re wrapped up in the moment you believe that he is the only one for you and that he is your soul mate, etc., you’re not seeing the forest for the trees. The truth is that when you leave him, his motives and intentions will become clear; in time you will realize that if you continue your affair you could potentially break up a family and forever damage your self-respect.
Think about yourself in the future when you are married with kids and imagine a woman coming into your life, taking your husband and tearing your marriage apart. Mind you, he is to blame because he lied and cheated, but your knowledge that he was married and the fact that you continued to be intimate with him makes you just as guilty.
The harsh and straight-forward truth may be hard to swallow, but when you find the man who treats you like the only girl in the world, you will be thanking yourself for making this decision. You are a strong and intelligent woman, no one has the right to manipulate or take advantage of you. You deserve better!