We have all been in a situation where going back to a previous relationship has presented itself at some point. The thought of getting your ex back can be exciting if you still have lingering feelings for the person, but a few days, weeks, perhaps even months later, doubts can pop back up and you inevitably begin to wonder if going back to an old relationship was a good idea or not.
For some people, the rekindling of an old flame is tough to resist. Old emotions easily crop back up and it becomes amazingly easy to fall back into an old routine. But before you do think about going back to an old relationship, consider the big picture.
Surely there was a reason why you two love birds broke up to begin with. Apparently it wasn’t all rainbows and sunshine after all. Take a look at the reason and with the benefit of time, logically think if the reason would still be a deal breaker today. For example, if cheating or dishonesty was a factor, is this something you can deal with being a part of your shared history today or do you feel tempted to re-hash the past? If the latter is true, then the same problems you experienced when you were together will reappear. If you are truly set on making things work again, then leave the past in the past and agree to move forward.
You may find after some time together that you have both become different people. Time apart means different experiences on both sides and that can either enhance a relationship or pull you further apart. Get to know each other again as you are today and focus on rebuilding some of the foundations if getting back together is what you are aiming for.
Whatever you decide in the end, try to take the time to make the best decision for you. Rushing to a decision one way or the other isn’t always the best thing. Go slow, proceed with caution but stay open to possibilities.
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