That gnawing feeling in the pit of your stomach is not because you forgot to eat breakfast. Pretending that everything is perfect will get you an ulcer, not a better relationship.
Chances are, you already know that you’ve got to pull the plug on Mr Almost-The-One, but you’re mistrusting yourself, ignoring the obvious.
Hopefully seeing these brutal truths in print will be the little shove out of the airplane that you need to safely parachute to reality:
You’re moving out to ˜save the relationship’
Shacking up is not for everyone, but how many happy, healthy couples do you know who choose to live separately, permanently? No matter who is packing their boxes for a studio apartment, you’re in the slow lane to singledom. Maybe no one wants to hurt anyone’s feelings, maybe no one want to be the bad guy, but this is just ripping that breakup bandaid off at a snail’s pace. Save yourself some agony and admit that it didn’t work out before someone accidently finds someone else’s used condoms in the wastebasket.
You’re setting up an online data profile ˜just for fun’
Granted, when those E-Harmony free match weekend specials come around it is tempting to want to see who the ˜experts’ would pair you up with. There is a difference though between dipping a curious toe in the water and doing a deep-sea dive. Clearly if you’re still seeking, then you have not found. Instead of stringing your little fishy along, be kind and just cut the line already. He has a computer, he’ll be just fine.
You imagine your life without him¦ and you don’t feel anything
It was those butterflies in your stomach that got you into this in the first place, so why stop listening now? If the thought of leaving him leaves you without even the vaguest nausea, your heart beats normally and you don’t feel like the bottom just dropped out of your stomach, you know what you have to do.