Settling. The word alone conjures up a host of images and feelings. Some feel absolutely indignant around the idea of “settling” in a relationship. Others think it’s a practical outlook. So, what’s right? We talked to people who sit on both sides of the fence to get differing perspectives on whether or not it’s a good idea to settle for ˜good-enough’ in your relationship.
The case for settling:
This may shock some of you, so grab a comfy seat. But no one is perfect. Yep. That’s right. Not even you. Sure, your well worn list of ˜must-haves’ have yet to be met in a significant other and dammit, you’re going to hold out for the golden ticket that checks every box off, for as long as it takes. Chances are, you might be waiting for a while. This is where adjustments and compromise come in and separating that list into must-haves versus nice-to-haves would be critical. Think about paring down expectations on the nice-to-have list and view it as being open to alternatives.
The case for not-settling:
Marriage statistics aren’t so hot these days. The fact remains that half of those that walk down the aisle don’t last for the long-haul so why make the huge commitment (and take the 50-50 risk) if the person at the outset doesn’t seem 100 per cent worth the chance? If odds are such why not give the both of you the best chance possible? With that in mind, it makes sense to hold out for the person that is the best possible fit for you and vice versa.
What do you think? Does it make sense to settle or hold out for Mr. or Ms. Right or accept good enough?