In the competitive world of dating, we are all ultimately searching for the trophy – that shiny prize at the end of it all, finally making our long years of participation worth it. But is love the goal we are aiming for, or is it the prospect of ending up with the number one overall draft pick?
Wanting a man with looks, intelligence, money, and social status sounds like the basis for any girl’s wish list, but today’s woman can get caught up in the quest for these seemingly perfect attributes at the expense of her happiness. This is not to say it’s time to lower our standards, but it may be time to reprioritize certain qualities in potential mates. If singlehood is baffling you, could it be that you are aiming too far beyond the target?
Are you over-estimating your ranking?
If you are ranking your dates on a scale “ let’s say, from 1 to 10 “ are you giving yourself the same treatment? Every woman certainly deserves a very good man, but take the time to be honest with yourself about where you actually stand within your own ranking system. Are you a 7 looking for other 7s or are you a 7 looking for 10s? This method may be controversial, but it’s really more about being aware of what you bring to the table, and not expecting anything more from that other person.
Are you only focused on appearances?
Are you compelled to bring him out in public as much as possible? Brag to your friends? Pray that photos of the two of you end up splattered over every possible social networking site? If your quest for a relationship if fuelled purely by how you think you will ˜look’ together, it is definitely time to regroup and recalculate. Take a tip from Sex and the City “ think Charlotte and Trey vs. Charlotte and Harry.
Have you tried anyone else?
Still not convinced? Submit yourself to a social experiment: go on just one date with the guy your co-worker thinks is your soul mate, your mom’s friend’s son whom you have been avoiding, anyone you have deemed ˜not good enough’. Just try it! But try it wholeheartedly “ that means staying positive and open-minded, and searching out the good in the man across the table from you. You may be surprised at what’s swimming around in the sub-10 pool.