Ever been stuck in a rut? Could be that you’ve hit a relationship ditch or your job is on a one-way track to nowhere or your kids are driving you bananas and you don’t know what to do (See: How to Deal with Life’s Little Disappointments.) Whatever the reason, we have all been there and know what it feels like to feel¦well¦stuck. So, what do you do when you don’t know how to get out and need a bit of a push to get some momentum going?
Acknowledge where you are:
Getting stuck is a common enough feeling that many of us can relate to it but the first step of getting out of a rut is acknowledging that you are in fact feeling down. Try identifying what the cause of the problem is. If it’s a relationship issue and you feel like the relationship isn’t going well, attempt to identify what specifically about the relationship is pulling you down.
Talk to someone:
Whether that be friends or family or a counsellor. Get out there and share in the problem. When you share difficulties they become easier and besides, by opening up, you may receive new insight from others “ solutions or ideas you hadn’t thought of before.
Give yourself time and make a plan:
Things take time and if you think about how long it took you to get to this position “ likely a series of small events or steps “ the same holds true for pulling yourself out. Getting out of the dumps isn’t a one time shot. It’s gradual and incremental. So make a plan for yourself and understand where you are going and how you are going to get there.
The power of you:
At the end of the day, the challenge of pulling yourself out of a rut, lies solely with you. You can rely on others to help, assist and listen, but the heavy lifting? That falls into your camp. You have to decide you want out and take proactive steps.