It’s nice to believe that after you meet The One, you’ll live happily ever after. But that’s typically only the case in fairy tales.
In real life, relationships take work and sometimes they need a little outside help. But how do you know if your rough patch needs some smoothing out from a professional? Read on for five signs that you might need couples’ counseling.
1. You avoid your partner
If you find yourself regularly staying late at the office and your partner is snoring every time you see him, it might be time to seek help from a counselor. By avoiding your partner, you’re avoiding the real issues in your relationship, and staying away only compounds the problem.
2. You bicker about everything
Everyone argues in a relationship, but if you find you’re bickering more frequently or about increasingly trivial details, a counseling session could be in order. Bickering can be a sign of a deeper unhappiness in the relationship “ but by directing your energy towards inconsequential problems, you’re ignoring the ones that really matter.
3. You disagree about the big things
Some disagreement is healthy in a relationship, but when it comes to the big things “ sex, children, finances “ a counselor may help to put things in perspective. Not all incompatibilities are insurmountable and an neutral third party can help you find out if you and your partner are willing or able to make compromises that can save your relationship.
Remember, compromise doesn’t mean that you always defer to your partner and vice versa.
4. You or your partner has been unfaithful
People don’t enter relationships expecting infidelity, but the reality is that nearly one-third of people in monogamous relationships have strayed at one time or another. If you decide to give the relationship a chance after an affair, a counselor can act as an impartial guide to help you work through the tension and emotions that come with facing up to infidelity.
5. You are worried about your sex life
It’s imporant to recongize that sex in a relationship goes through cycles. But if you notice a marked change in your sex life, a counselor or registered sex therapist can help you improve the intimacy you share with your partner.
Whether it’s anxiety about performance, frequency or specific desires, a good therapist can guide you and your partner through what can feel like an embarrassing or frustrating situation.
Have you ever seen a couples therapist? Did it hurt or help? We’d like to know.