Here is a look at the most common mistakes women make when it comes to men and why they need to stop. Are you making one of these mistakes right now?
Mistake #1: Dating a Married Man
This is by far the worst mistake of all-time and it happens often enough. It’s always the same story: he tells you he is unhappy with his wife, but he can’t leave her and tear apart his family. You are not responsible for this. You are not affiliated with his family and you have no obligation to help him find happiness. It is his choice and his responsibility. Should he end up single one day, tell him to call you. Until then, he is already married so he won’t (and can’t) marry you. Even if he does one day, you’ll never quite trust that he won’t do to you what he did to wife number one.
Mistake #2: Being Too Clingy
Yes, women are more emotional beings but that doesn’t mean you can call him twenty times a day and stick to him like glue when you go out in public. It will drive him away. Heck, it would drive you away if the roles were reversed. Everyone expresses emotions in their own way and you can’t force anyone to be like you. And no one likes to receive a million calls a day. If you get the urge to call yet again, text your BFF instead.
Mistake #3: Accepting the Unacceptable
If your man has a few habits that get under your skin, join the club. It’s part of life. But if your man insists on certain things that are just not okay with you, don’t turn a blind eye to them because the issues will only simmer until you eventually explode. If partying all night with the boys or being guilty of calling you names out of anger are bothersome to you, don’t sweep it under the rug. You have the right to be with someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. You do not have to settle. Respect yourself enough to demand more out of a relationship.
Mistake #4: Ignoring His Cheating Past
Okay, if your man cheated on his high school girlfriend, I think we can let that go. But if he has cheated in his adult life, especially if it has been more than once, be weary of him. Don’t dive into the relationship head first until you have really gotten to know whether or not he has changed. And keep in mind that a repeat cheater is not likely to change. The right girl isn’t going to change him because this isn’t a Hollywood movie with a happy ending. It’s real life.
Mistake #5: Reading Too Much Into Things
Some guys say exactly what they think. In fact, most of them do. Unlike women, they don’t hide behind clever phrases and moodiness. They say what they think and what they feel. Stop looking for a way to analyze his words. Maybe he means exactly what he said. Don’t drive yourselves both crazy analyzing everything to death. If it’s a new romance and the guy doesn’t seem too enthused, maybe he isn’t. Don’t assume he must be busy or tired. No one is too busy to make time for a person they’re interested in. You never are, right? Don’t make excuses.
Mistake #6: Making the Same Mistake Twice
If you’ve given one guy the benefit of the doubt and got burned, don’t make the same mistake again. Don’t go for that same guy all the time and then act surprised when things always turn up the same way. Learn from your mistakes. That’s why we make them. Besides, there’s a reason the expression Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me, exists.
Mistake #7: Searching for Men in Clubs
Yes, there are always exceptions, but as a general rule, men on the prowl in night clubs are looking for nothing more than a one-night stand. If you’re barking up the wrong tree, you won’t like what you find there.
Mistake #8: Waiting for the Big Gesture
If life was an 80s flick, you might get one. But it’s not. Most guys will not run into a church and stop your wedding or purchase a $1,000 plane ticket to tell you he loves you and is sorry for breaking your heart. Life just does not work this way. Stop waiting for the guy in your life to do something huge to make you happy. Learn to be happy with normal every day gestures that a man does to show he cares, like telling you he loves you, texting you to see how your day is, and helping you when you need it.
Mistake #9: Consorting with the Enemy (a.k.a. the Ex)
If you’ve been dumped, you need to shut off all communication with your ex. Any form of communication with someone who obviously no longer wants to be with you, will make your recovery more difficult. Count on your friends and family for comfort. If you did the dumping, leave your ex alone so he can move on with his life, too. In the long run, a clean break is best for both of you.
Mistake #10: Trying to Stay Friends
If you’ve dated someone, you are not friends. You may have been friends before but you’re not now. Being in each other’s lives will only slow down the process of moving on for at least one of you. In some rare instances, couples break up with no hard feelings and it is completely mutual. This might be grounds for a continued friendship. However, in most cases, it’s a way to hang on to something you no longer have. Don’t let that fake friendship rule your life. Get back out there and find Mr. Right because he IS out there.
