Internet dating is a great way to meet potential boyfriends without ever having to shave your legs. You can join an internet dating service such as match.com or eharmony.com, or you can meet guys through social networking sites like Facebook, Twitter, and others. It can be a lot of fun to chat with different guys over the internet and find out if you have things in common, have the same sense of humor, and might be a potential match for each other. That being said, there are some common mistakes that that people make when internet dating. Below are some easy mistakes you should avoid when dating online.
Mistake number one – Being exclusive right away.
Don’t make the mistake of zeroing in on one potential internet guy right away. If you get a good thing going with someone online, texting, e-mailing, and staying in touch several times a day, you may start to think he is the one before you have even met. Until you have reached a point where you meet in person (in a public place, please) and have started to date, don’t shut out other internet dating opportunities that may arise.
Mistake number two – Lying.
Sounds like an easy enough mistake to avoid but so many people do this when internet dating. Don’t lie about your age, occupation, expectations, the kind of car you drive “ whatever! If you are hoping to have a relationship with your internet date, it is not best to start off by letting him know you are a liar. Even if you are lying about little things you think don’t matter, he will wonder what else you are lying about. (Are you married? A psychopath? On the run from the law?) Don’t give in to the temptation when you are internet dating to make yourself seem more attractive/wealthy/taller than you really are “ imagine how you would feel if he misrepresented himself to you. This doesn’t mean you can’t protect yourself by not revealing information at first (this is only smart.) It means don’t say you’re a brunette from Venezuela when you are really a blond from Toronto.
Mistake number three – Thinking you know someone you haven’t met.
It is very, very easy to think you know someone who you have been texting, e-mailing, and maybe even talking to on the phone. And it is equally as easy to misrepresent who you are to someone you haven’t met. This is how sexual predators attract their prey. Of course, that is an extreme example (no need to assume your potential boyfriend is really a criminal, at least not right away), but don’t make the mistake of thinking you know what this person is really like. This can lead to you making assumptions that may turn out to be disappointing, or worse.
Mistake number four – Spending too much money.
Of course you want to look your best when you finally meet your online interest, but don’t go crazy. Manicure, pedicure, new clothes, new shoes, hair done, how about a new lipstick “ okay, how much have you spent? For a guy you’ve never even seen? Suppose you walk into the restaurant, coffee bar, movie theater lobby and discover he’s been engaging in a little internet lying himself? Along this same line, make sure your first date is not at a very expensive restaurant or other venue “ suppose you can’t stand this guy five seconds after you meet? Avoid this mistake and don’t add insult to injury by having to chip in for your half of that forty-dollar steak and expensive bottle of wine.
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