So you’ve met a guy. Your first impression is he’s charming, polite, funny, handsome, sensitive, whatever positive characteristics that attract you to a man. But maybe, just maybe, there is something slightly off about him. You can’t put your finger on it, but he has some subtle behaviour that is sending some of your warning flags flapping. The truth of the matter is that some first impressions, no matter how fabulous, can be a lie. This isn’t a simple matter of a guy being on his best behaviour to try and impress you, it’s more of a matter of something being, well, not quite right. For some tips and clues for telling when that first impression is actually a lie, see below.
He’s well off, possibly even rich. The lie? He’s really a cheapskate, or drowning in debt. This guy has a fantastic car, tailored clothes, a Rolex watch and a taste for the finest wines. Clues this first impression is a lie – it’s too much. If you could see his underwear it would be designer, because this guy loves to spend, spend, spend, and his credit cards are maxed. Also sneak a peek at the check (of course he’ll pay) to see if he’s a cheap tipper, as this is a great way to see if he’s a cheapskate.
He’s got a great sense of humour. The lie? It’s only when he’s not the butt of the joke. This guy has an excellent sense of humour – about everything but himself. If he scowls or remains straight faced at even the lightest teasing, his sense of humour is not as great as he would like you to think it is. Many studies have shown women place a sense of humor high on the characteristics they desire most in a man, so he’s trying to move himself up on the chain for you.
He’s a gentleman. The lie? He’s really a pig. This guy has the most elegant manners you have ever encountered. He holds open doors, stands when you leave the table, listens to every word you say without interrupting, and seems almost too good to be true. Clues to watch for – wandering eyes. Do you catch him ogling other women when he thinks you aren’t looking, or do his eyes briefly touch on your breasts before making their way up? You may think you are imagining it but if your instinct tells you differently, you’re not.
He’s good looking and well-dressed. The lie? He’s actually obsessed with his appearance. He seems like your dream guy – those eyes, that smile, the way those jeans fit him. However, meticulous attention to detail may be a red flag for this guy. If he’s constantly touching his hair, fixing his shirt, maybe even checking his reflection in the bar mirror, he may be slightly obsessed with his appearance. Or even more than slightly obsessed.