Not every relationship is The Relationship. Sometimes, with some guys, things just grind to a halt. Maybe your good feelings have evaporated. Maybe you never felt strongly to begin with.
Every couple has days where they just don’t think it’s going to work out, but that’s different from a relationship that has reached its natural end. Here’s how to tell for sure.
It’s not mutual.
Do you ever get the feeling that one of you cares more? Way more? This can work either way: is he nuts about you, but you’re kind of neutal? Or are you madly in love with him and somehow sense he doesn’t quite return the feeling? This is a sure sign it’s time to call it quits.
You’re looking for a replacement (or he is).
If either one of you is still on the lookout for something better, it may be time to call it quits. When one of you has one foot out the door, there’s no point in prolonging the inevitable.
Everything about him irritates you.
No one’s perfect, not even you, beautiful. But love is about learning to live with his faults. If every little thing he does seems to be working your last nerve – the way he says hello, the fact that he calls you babe, that relentless gum chewing, and does he have to wait so long to hit the brake? – these may be signs that it’s over.
Stop gritting your teeth – you’re not getting any awards for sticking it out.
You don’t respect him.
If you just don’t feel respect for him as a person, it’s probably time to say goodbye. If your feelings for him have evolved into apathy or pity, that’s a definitely bad sign.
The good outweighs the bad. Only you can decide this one: if the majority of your time together is negative – you’re fighting, you’re avoiding him, you’re silently cursing him –it may be time to let him go. Your relationship should make you happy – it should be a respite from the cruel world.
When you feel that most of your time together isn’t ending well, it’s time to end it for good.
There are real red flags.
If your guy is abusive – whether verbally, physically or emotionally – if he uses drugs, or if he is a heavy drinker, call it quits. Now. No one deserves a guy like this – and least of all a great girl like you.
What’s the ultimate relationship deal-breaker for you? We’d love to know!