Hearing I love you can be one of the most beautiful moments of a girl’s life. To love and be loved is an amazing feeling, and those three little magic words, I love you, can make an ordinary day special and extraordinary. However, there comes a time in every beautiful girl’s life when a guy says those words and the feeling is just not mutual. What happens then? Thank him, run away, pretend to be hard of hearing, or just smile and nod? This awkward moment can make or break a relationship, especially if you feel you may one day return those feelings (just not today.) So how do you handle this moment? See below.
There’s no chance you’ll ever fall in love with this guy. In fact, you’re not even sure you really like him. You’re dating him because friends set you up, or he can be fun at dinner, or maybe you’re just bored with sitting home on Saturday nights. Then all of sudden he springs those three words, and you’re flabbergasted. What to do? Smile politely, thank him, and let him know that (a) it is too soon, (b) you’re only interested in friendship, or (c) you like him but don’t think you want have that sort of relationship with him. It’s also important to express how flattered you are “ he did just declare his love. (Unless you think it’s insincere, then just thank him.) More importantly, let him know you can’t see him anymore. Don’t date a guy who says he loves you when you know you’ll never return that feeling.
You don’t love him but want to keep him as a good friend. As above, let him know how flattered you are, and then tell him exactly how you are feeling “ you don’t love him but want to keep him as a friend. Many guys will reject this approach and ditch the relationship completely, but if he really is a good friend, he’ll stay one. Then break off the relationship for a while “ even if you’re going to stay friends, it’s good for both parties to have some time apart. He needs to deal with his feelings (and the rejection thereof) and it’s not fair to string him along by continuing to see him.
You think you might love him one day, just not today. Maybe you don’t know him well enough yet, or the relationship is too new, or there are some doubts that need to be resolved. This is the toughest one of all, and the best thing you can do is be truthful “ don’t try to fake it. Take some time to talk out your feelings with him “ if he really is in love, he’ll want to explore this. Once you both know the reasons for his unreturned affection, take some steps to overcome them. After all, if true love is hiding around the corner, you don’t want to scare it away!
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