ICYMI, the season finale of The Bachelorette Canada was on last night and although we forgot to tweet about it because we drank too much wine (true story), we were still watching with bated breath to see which of the two guys Jasmine would choose. Would it be firefighter hunk Kevin or the sweet, sensitive and PERFECT Mikhel? Well, it should come as no surprise that Jasmine chose Kevin, but in case you weren’t expecting that outcome, let’s break it down a bit.
When it comes to The Bachelorette series (not The Bachelor), most of the women go for the guy that they know isn’t quite right for them. Andi chose Josh over Nick, Kaitlyn chose Shawn over… Nick (okay, bad example) and JoJo chose Jordan over Robby. While the feelings for the other guys were definitely there, there’s something about this franchise that makes these smart, crazy-confident women choose the guy that gives them a feeling of passion.
Now, passion is all well and good, but we all know it’s not the cornerstone of relationships that people make it out to be. While a spark is important, as is chemistry, when you look at those couples that list their relationship as “passionate,” it’s often also dramatic and tumultuous, among other things.
So, were we surprised that Jasmine chose Kevin, who she’d experienced “crazy electricity” with over Mikhel, who she knew she could count on? No, we’re not.
Listen, Mikhel was awesome. And while he was clearly the better man for Jasmine (though, real talk, Kevin’s speech about why Mikhel is the better man almost made me cry), the only saving grace in this whole mess is that he might actually become the next Bachelor Canada. Because it’s about fucking time that we get a non-white guy fronting the show and what better franchise to do it than the Canadian one?
But, as awesome Mikhel as is, he was never going to win. Because when it comes down to finding a partner in life on a show like this, someone who is dependable, reliable and supportive doesn’t really boost ratings. While I’m sure there are feelings there between Jasmine and Kevin (I mean, have you seen Kevin?), it seems that the pattern is to go towards the guys that seem great, but are maybe not the safest option. Now, that’s not to say that you should ever settle, but I’ve long believed that the people that are viable lifelong partners are not the same that fall under the “passion” category. Love is a slow burn, not an explosion, because after an explosion, the flame fizzles and that does not a marriage (at least a long-lasting one) make. Sorry, guys.
This franchise is one that I love to hate and hate to love. As someone who is now married and has been with the same guy for nearly a decade, I constantly battle watching this show. It makes me wish for things that are missing in my relationship (namely, going on dates in foreign countries, as one does), but also makes me realize what’s missing in these matches and that seems to be finding someone that they could potentially, legitimately grow with.
Granted, we’re only seeing what the crafty producers of this franchise want us to see. But, I’m still not surprised. In any case, congrats to Jasmine and Kevin!